I'm in high school and my older brother has been living with my mom and me for about 3 years. He has mild Aspergers and I think my mom is easier on him because of it.
I found out he has Aspergers when I was 11 because my parents got into a huge fight while they were telling my other brother and I that they were separating. We weren't that close growing up and in hindsight, I think it may have been because I didn't know/understand that he had/has trouble with interpersonal relationships. I also think that this also attributes to my resent towards him.
He graduated from college a couple of years ago and was working as a cashier and living with my grandmother when my mom suggested that he move in with us, which he agreed to.
He lived with us and stayed unemployed for about a year, freeloading off of my mom and not trying to find a job (my parents are divorced and my dad isn't really in our lives anymore, so he's not much help). My mom finally pushed for him to find a job and he got one within a month of actually trying to get one.
My problem with him living with us is that he is a slob and has no respect for property.
My mom got our house repainted right before he moved in and now there's food stains and marks on the walls because he always has food on his hands and is touching the walls.
He makes food in the kitchen and doesn't clean up after himself-- if he makes himself pasta, there's always spaghetti sauce everywhere, if he makes corn, there'll be corn all over the kitchen counters, etc.
He eats food that is mine unless I leave a note specifying otherwise. Once, my mom made apple pie because she knows I love it and my brother ate from the whole pie with his bare hands after eating corn with his bare hands.
The refrigerator is disgusting because he eats directly out of it and lets food drop to the bottom.
He smokes cigarettes in the backyard and leaves the butts everywhere.
He often leaves the front door unlocked at night, which makes me feel unsafe because I feel like he doesn't care about my safety.
He keeps on breaking the garage door opener because he's too rough with it and my mom constantly accuses me of breaking it.
My brother just bought a brand new car at my mom's suggestion and my mom cosigned. Not a month later, his car has scratches and my mom was upset but she was kind of like "oh well"
My mom facilitates this behavior. She gets upset by the disarray he causes, but won't tell him so. If I ever do anything , I never hear the end of it. She puts a lot of expectations on me while not expecting the same from him. I've talked to her about how living with him is stressful for me, but she just brushes it off and tells me that I'm overreacting. Maybe I am, maybe I'm not, but I'm genuinely unhappy with my living situation and I don't know what to do. My brother and I got along fine when I didn't live with him 24/7. I love my brother, but living with him makes me hate him and I really don't want to. I sound like an asshole, but it's been building up for years and I have no one to talk to about it.
Submitted May 10, 2016 at 09:03PM by throwaway121888 http://ift.tt/1OeR5a1 offmychest
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