Let me start by stating that I'm not a tall man. I'm 5'8, which, while shorter than average, isn't very short either. I grew up with some image issues, being a late bloomer, I was shorter than most of the guys, but other than that it was not much of a problem. I never faced bullying or any of that sort.
My wife and I married 3 1/2 years ago, and at that time neither of us were sure on the idea of having children. We didn't want them right away, but we both agreed that it might be a possibility in the future, and to bring it up again whenever one of us changes our mind, and left it at that. We split the household chores evenly, alternating days where one of us cooks and washes up, doing the laundry, both doing any major cleaning at the same time. I make about 3x that of her, and so I pay for most of the expensive items, like refrigerator, computers etc. She did use to earn more but cut back on hours because she was stressed with her job. That was about a year ago.
On to the main issue. We talked about the baby thing again, because we felt that we wanted kids and the time was right. All was going well, until what felt like she threw a brick at my face and told me that we should consider using a sperm donor. This struck me completely out of the blue, as there was nothing she did or say prior that she wanted this. I asked her why, and her reply was that she didn't want the kid to have image issues while growing up. I don't know why she would think this. I did have a few minor issues in my childhood and teenage years, but I later grew out of it and it doesn't bother me anymore, and has never bothered me since I have been together with my wife. It's completely safe to say that I have no concern whatsoever with my height.
When she revealed this to me, I was at a total loss for words. I couldn't think of anything to say, so I gave her replies like "yeah", "ok", "alright", because I felt so numb. I went to work today and was half in a daze. This revelation came to me completely unexpected, it's like we were happy and content and suddenly she wants to pull the rug from under me? What do I even say to her? Part of me feels like hashing things out with her, while another part wants to just pack my things and just fuck off. It feels like all the love she had for me was a lie.
TLDR: Wife tells me she is considering using another man's sperm to get pregnant, I am shocked.
Submitted March 17, 2016 at 11:16AM by NeedReditPerspective http://ift.tt/1pvxHL7 relationships
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