Yesterday at 11 weeks, I started miscarrying and was scheduled for a D&C tomorrow. This morning I had extensive cramping and passed the baby in the shower. I went to the dr and an US showed I am pretty much empty though I am dilated to 1. I will have a series of blood work done to follow my numbers down. I am deeply grieving but I need to make some decisions within the next few days.
I have collected the baby's body and have it in my refrigerator. My SO and I have both seen and held the baby. My 6 year old was at school. After picking him up, he asked if he gets to see and hold the baby. Does anyone have experience with this? He is having trouble understanding the loss as it is. I don't want to deny him but I don't know if he is just too young.
Should I take pictures of the baby? I am unsure if I could ever bear to really look at them, but I know if I don't take them now I will never have the chance again.
I had plans to travel 4 hours with my parents to my sister's house this weekend for her gender reveal. She is 6 weeks ahead of me. We also have rented a hotel suite for my 3 BFFs, my sister, and me to have an adult sleepover like the old days. I have to decide if I will still go. I know I will not be able to keep it together at my sister's reveal but I also could really use the support from my family and BFFs. They won't do the girls night with out me if I do not go, but I don't want to be a downer on the weekend as well. It will definitely change the mood of the weekend.
The last thing is my mom suggested we bury the baby at my grandfather's grave located in the same town as my sister. If we decide to do this, I would have to go. There is no way I would not be there. My SO's work schedule is rough this week and he is working 14 hour nights and sleeping during the day. He would not be able to go this weekend. I know this is more of a decision that I need to make with him, but it was worth mentioning. I don't know when he will have a free day next and I don't know how long I can keep the baby not buried.
I am open to any other opinions for burial though I read at 11 weeks it may not be possible to cremate.
Submitted March 17, 2016 at 04:50AM by nowthatihavefoundyou http://ift.tt/1RlxiHl BabyBumps
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