[Update] I [34:M] think my girlfriend [26:F] [4 months] may have cheated, but don't know who to believe. relationships

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I ended things today. I spent the last week or so just getting info and trying to gather my thoughts. Oddly I really enjoyed the time we spent together.

I went through her phone a few days after my last post. Found some texts with her and another guy (player 4 has entered the arena) where they were basically trying to sneak around and meet up, with some sexual stuff as well. I've never gone through someones phone before, and the next night she said "hey, can I ask you something? Did you go through my phone last night?".

Before I could answer she said "baby its okay, I'm not even mad. I'd probably do the same thing in your position. I want you to do whatever you need to to feel better and I know I have to work on rebuilding trust. I really love you and want this to work"

That's how disarming she is. I said nothing about the texts at that time.

For shits and giggles, I checked it out again last night. They're sending each other hotel prices in the Dominican Republic and talking about going away for a short trip together.

I went to bed (she came over blackout drunk and really shouldn't have driven, which made me furious).

This morning, I calmly sat her down and told her I'm done. Tired of the lies, don't trust her, don't believe her shit. She was confused and a little defensive and left. I pity her.

I feel numb but it hurts at the same time. I loved this woman. She's literally talking to me about how excited she is she may have finally found the one and planning secret getaways with another guy (not even the same guy from the goddamn boat!).

I don't really know what to say or do right now. I'd hit the gym but there are none, and I can't eat properly anyways (no refrigerator or power) so it's kind of pointless.

Anyways, thanks so much for your help and advice. I can't believe how convincing of a liar she is. Any tips on where to go from here would be appreciated.

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tl;dr: Treaded water for a week, found even more sketchy stuff with yet another dude, ended it with no warning.

Submitted December 10, 2017 at 04:34AM by throwaway2219911 http://ift.tt/2kL7AT6 relationships