I (34F) met my SO (32M) July 2017. I immediately knew he was different and everything I was looking for. We really hit it off and fell in love quickly and intensely. Our time was limited due to work and kids but usually saw each other once a week.
Early September he texts me that he was offered his dream job in LA, at the time we were in Florida only about 30 minutes apart. I felt that he should go because it would be good for him and his daughter. After mulling it over and taking down all his social media after 2 days he decides to accept the job. It broke my heart and I was pretty messed up for awhile. Him and I were planning to part ways and it was killing both of us. Instead of saying goodbye we both agreed to try a LDR even though we didn't know how we could possibly close the distance.
His start date for his new job was October 9th and we tried to make the best of the time we had left. I don't remember what brought it on but I had a friend at work say that for whatever reason she didn't trust my boyfriend and thought he was making up this job/move. I thought she was ridiculous and I couldn't understand why she felt that way or why anyone would make such an outlandish lie. Her accusations did get to me though, just a little but I wanted to prove her wrong. Shortly after he left for the weekend to get job details, sign paperwork, etc. My first suspicion that was something was off was when he said his flight was at 1:45 and it was 1:15 and he was almost to the airport, I know after a certain time they close the gate but he said his flight was delayed to 2:05. It struck me as odd that he would show up to the airport so late. I did try to search for his flight and it didn't seem to exist, again odd but all I could think to myself was "but why the fuck would be lie?" I didn't hear much from him while he was there for the weekend, I had asked him to get goofy refrigerator magnet for my friend but it seemed he forgot. I brushed the whole thing off as my brain being crazy and letting my friend's words get to me.
We had 3 weeks before he started his job but only 2 remaining because I had to fly out for a wedding in Seattle. We spent 3 amazing days together before we had to part ways for awhile. During his first week on his new job he had to work all 7 days and worked long hours. With the time difference and his long hours, communications were limited. What did surprise me was he hadn't taken a single photo and we never communicated with a phone call. We started using the app "couple" to communicate because he was missing some of my texts, we started using it October 17th. The app said he was in EST and not PST, that really nagged at me. I eventually brought it up but was trying to be casual about it. He told me to stop being silly.
The following morning he sends me a screen shot from his phone, it showed the weather in LA (just refreshed) and his phone properly displayed he was in PST, he was trying to prove it was the app. Before he sent that pic I honestly thought I was just being a crazy person. I figured eventually I would have some sort of proof that he was where he claimed to be and I was planning on dropping it. That screen shot really started to bother me. Later that day I tried the GPS feature on the Couple app, I asked him to humor me and I was curious where it thought he was. He accepted and it put him in his home city. He got irritated, sent me another screen shot with weather (just refreshed again) and time and then another of Google maps of universal city to a hotel downtown LA. I flat out told him that the map proved nothing but honestly it wasn't an issue because he had no reason to lie about being there. Also now Couple was displaying his time correctly but when I checked again later he was in EST.
I knew he was bothered by me questioning him so for closure without involving him I decided to drive to his work the next morning. His car was there and I completely lost my shit. I sent him a snap with his car in the parking lot. He told me to go inside ask for him and then hang my head in shame when I walked out. He said he was renting his car out to someone while he was gone (he hadn't completely moved yet). He was super angry, said I was insane and said: "stay away from my old work, and stay away from my house. If I find out different, we will have a much bigger problem than we do now."
I regretted the things I said and basically begged for forgiveness. He told me there was now no future for us. I sent one last heartfelt apology. I was going to have flowers sent to his hotel and surprise... the hotel found no such name. I have made no more attempts to contact him but now the little nagging part of my brain says "what if he was telling the truth?"
tl;dr Thought I was in a long distance relationship but it's possible he never even left to begin with.
Submitted October 21, 2017 at 05:58PM by madison_spencer http://ift.tt/2yYkcfC relationships
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