My roommate [28M] is letting his very first girlfriend [21F] live with us. He doesn't understand why we care about this. relationships

This has been going on for about eight months now. My boyfriend [28M] and I [25F] have had the same roommate for the last two and a half years. Let’s call him Bill. We were previously living in an apartment together and he was the perfect roommate. He cleaned up after himself, was quiet, and would do roommate stuff with us like going grocery shopping, hanging out and watching movies

About eight months ago, roomie gets his first girlfriend ever. He was previously a virgin but when this girl came along, he fell head over heels in love. From the beginning she was staying in our apartment almost every night. In August we moved into a house and picked up another roommate [31M]. Since we moved into the house, she has stayed over almost every single night. She has her own apartment but she stays with us most of the time. She has shower stuff in our shower and she does her laundry at our house.

Since they have started dating, I never see either one of them. Bill and his girlfriend pretty much stay in their bedroom all day and night. The once perfect roommate is now distant and hard to talk to. For the first few months in our new house, I hardly saw him at all, which has a lot to do with opposite work schedules but it made confronting him about whether or not she was living with us hard. Finally, in October, he came upstairs at about 2 in the morning when I was the only one awake. I confronted him asking if his girlfriend was living with us and he said "pretty much" So I said that she should be paying rent or at least we need to have a house meeting about it. He agreed and I didn't hear anything else about it for about a week. He then came upstairs with $20 and said that he and her talked about it (without consulting his other roommates obviously) and that since she is staying in his room, the only thing she is using is water. I should note that since they started dating, Bill bought a mini refrigerator, a microwave, and a new TV for his room so they literally never leave the room, they just sit down there and giggle and have sex loudly, like any good couple should.

My boyfriend and other roommate and I have all been seething about this the last few months. Not because she is there but because of the complete lack of communication, even if I directly confront him.

So /r/relationships, any advice on how to go from here?

tl;dr: Roommate is a man-baby who just got his first girlfriend, dumped all his friends, practically moved her in and she doesn't pay rent. what do.

Submitted January 02, 2016 at 02:05PM by lizlemonkush http://ift.tt/1P7FDqV relationships