I came home tonight to catch my Ngrandmother going through the only place I'm "allowed" to store any of my dishes in the kitchen. She tried accusing me of stealing a spoon of hers (mine look very different since they are super plain dollar store ones). She also has been doing this thing lately where she is going through what she THINKS are "common" or "shared" items but are just mine, and I notice later because things are purposely moved because she seems to have the idea that I'm storing my items incorrectly. For example, there are 2 bathrooms, I use one, she uses the other. She likes to come in "mine" when I'm not here and moves where the toilet paper is and a hamper and stand on a daily basis. There is no point to this besides her thinking she is exerting control over me.
She has also been turning the refrigerator down to where it almost doesn't stay cold enough. I've had to turn it back up multiple times a day when I'm home, because as soon as I leave the kitchen, she gets right up to turn it down. It is the same thing with her locking all the doors, as soon as I go outside she makes sure they are all locked no matter what. At some point last year I found out the latter is an attempt to lock me out without my keys. Stupid, because all my life I've been diligent about having keys, my phone, and money on me at all times.
It's just been pretty clear that she's been attempting to escalate things in the past month, despite still giving silent treatment. Her method is to constantly do petty, annoying things, probably in hopes that I will freak out on her over them.
So, I called her out on going through my kitchenware and she of course had a big N fit, tried to make her same old circular arguments on the same old topics (how I should move out then claiming she cares about what would happen if she dies, how it is my fault she can't sell the house, etc etc). I flat out told her I do not care about anything that comes out of her mouth after she has given me the silent treatment for 8 months (which she tried blaming on me, saying I "forbid her to speak" LOL) and also after she has clearly told whatever horrible lies about me to the rest of the family, as I absolutely was not welcome here on all holidays in this house over those 8 months, despite that I LIVE here.
She kept going on and on from the other room and I get overwhelmed having to hear a person who needs to get the last 5000 words in. I guess she wasn't getting her desired N supply! I couldn't help myself and ended up saying, "This is how you sound...LOOK AT ME EVERYBODY! I'M SO PROUD OF MYSELF! I'M THE BEST EVER! I AM SUPERIOR TO ALL! NOBODY ELSE CAN EVER DO ANYTHING RIGHT! ME ME ME ME!" However, she missed the first part so she didn't realize I was mocking her and she thought I was talking about myself. She, with her voice breaking like she was going to cry, said, "Are you happy now?" It took me a moment to realize that she didn't hear the first part and I laughed and said, "Yes, absolutely."
This FINALLY got her to go silent immediately in the middle of me saying it. I clapped and said, "Thank you, shows over! Please don't speak to me again unless you can show me proof of your visits to a needed psychiatrist."
I don't know what I did, but I find it hilarious that an N thinking the SG just went full-blast N with supreme arrogance would seemingly break the N. And this is an extremely miserly N who spends all day gossiping to family members (she has no real friends since she verbally abused them all over time) about each other, used to drive her husband to hiding in the bedroom all day long to escape hours of verbal slaughter of his soul, and apparently never once told my Nmom that she loved her or anything resembling kindness or empathy, not a single time in 53 years (because she is incapable of either).
Submitted October 07, 2015 at 07:34AM by redlentils http://ift.tt/1LhvBRQ raisedbynarcissists
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