My roommate and I have been living together for 2 years, and she's been dating her girlfriend for about 4 years. I knew that moving in with her, her girlfriend would be around frequently. We all get along fine so I thought it would be okay, but it's starting to get a little too extreme.
My roommate works night shift, so she sleeps during the day. Even when she's asleep, her girlfriend is here. She'll just be out in the living room sitting on the couch watching TV while her girlfriend is asleep in her bedroom. We have in-unit washer/dryer and she does her laundry here. She utilizes our refrigerator space and cooks here.
My roommate is currently at work and I just came home to find her girlfriend alone in our apartment, just going about her business. This has happened way more than once… I've often come home to find her studying in our kitchen or folding laundry in the living room or watching Netflix on the couch. It's not that I don't trust her and we get along just fine… but something about it just rubs me the wrong way that she's not paying rent but basically lives here for free. Why does she need to be alone in our apartment when both of us are out? She "technically" lives with her parents who live about 10 minutes away from us… but I would stay she actually stays here 5 nights out of the week and is very rarely ever at her parents' house.
Some days I just want to have the apartment to myself. It's irritating when I come home and want to just relax on the couch and watch TV and find her girlfriend there, utilizing our Netflix account and binge watching shows, so I'm forced to go into my room. There's been times when I've wanted to cook dinner but her girlfriend is here using the kitchen so I've had to wait.
I'm really close with my roommate and actually, her girlfriend has also become a friend to me, so I don't want to make things awkward or create tension. But I'm just starting to get really annoyed and feel like they're kind of "taking over" the apartment. Sometimes it feels like I get outnumbered and get forced into my room because she's ALWAYS here and they're constantly taking over the common areas.
She definitely cleans up after herself and actually probably contributes more cleaning in the common spaces than my roommate does… but I didn't sign up to have 2 roommates, I signed up to have 1. Am I wrong to feel like she should paying/contributing something in this situation?
tl;dr: Roommate's girlfriend technically lives "with her parents" but is at our apartment more often than not, even when my roommate isn't here. I'm starting to feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick and like they're taking over the apartment and I'm frequently forced into my room because they take over the common areas. Is it wrong to want for her to chip in with rent?
Submitted June 15, 2015 at 05:18AM by throwawaybyeeeee http://ift.tt/1IVSOO2 relationships
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