Friday, December 2, 2016

We live with my boyfriend's boss & it's never ending bullshit. Advice

So (I am a shitty story teller and this is kinda long as I am trying to give the back story & such and im kinda ranting SORRY) I live with my boyfriend, renting out the basement (washer, dryer, bathroom, furniture, refrigerator) in a recently divorced guy's house. This guy, owns a home improvement type business which he can barely keep running, and my boyfriend works for him. There are other (smaller) rooms in the house, and 3 other guys live here AND work for the boss/home owner. The pay for everybody was initially $100 a day, (almost always) 5 days a week. I believe the rent for everyone else is around $300 but that's whatever. Ours is $550 on the 1st of the month. Payday is meant to be weekly. Countless times my bf & the guys are not paid on time. I remember one time it was 2.5 weeks til he got paid.

My bf, and most of the guys actually have criminal records from past things. We all, including the boss/home owner dude, are in recovery from drugs or alcohol. When me & him moved in, he had a job at Dunkin Donuts which sucked somethin awful. Overworked, underpaid. The soon-to-be boss/homeowner basically offered him a job & hyped it up, said he'd be paid more, all that. When my bf quit his job (just 4 days notice which was a mistake but he was super fed up with it) all of a sudden, boss dude's enthusiasm wasn't really there & he seemed nonchalant about the whole thing. We kinda freaked but the dude is bipolar (self admittedly) and a military vet, going thru a divorce at 50 yr old... okay whatever maybe he's having a hard time. After a week of no work/not much money, he was brought on board to work for dude. At this time, bf has worked for him since spring of last year i think, and there are 4 other guys working for this dude. This guy doesn't do shit. Can't even stay at the job site unless there's some "hot girl" there. His boss is extremely unprofessional in more than just a perverted way, he's lazy, hardly knows what he's doing despite having the business for 10 years, AND refuses to put his guys on payroll to avoid what I guess is some sort of business tax or something. So it's all under the table. Illegal, right? Aside from it being hard to live or even deal with the guy, I feel bad for my BF that he has to be around him so much. I currently don't work, which is another story and issue, and I feel guilty. I do. It's a lot of stress and anxiety that we (especially him) don't need. It is always something... Either not gettin paid on time, or not getting paid in FULL, and it's mostly due to his boss being unable to handle his shit, like finances. In the same week my man won't get paid, his boss will buy a Fossil watch or a new phone or go to the mall or go on a weekend trip with whoever he's "dating". For a while he was actively using the excuse that his ex wife is taking all his money from him. Which I know she does get some from him, but the excessive spending doesn't help obviously. I could go on forever but it wouldn't even matter. My boyfriend pays $100 restitution monthly, his phone bill, food and things for us both, cat food & litter for our kitty, and gas for da car... aside from rent. Luckily my grandmother has been helping with car insurance, but can't do that forever. I feel even if I got a part time job, things wouldn't get much better, but I am still planning on doing it anyway. I know i need to help with the weight of it all. I just don't know what to do or if there is anything to do about it. We can't afford to go anywhere else. Plus, we are trapped due to the fact his boss/landlord (for lack of better term) is kinda... not so sane in the way of his thinking or behavior. If my bf got another job & stopped working for this guy, we wouldn't be allowed to keep living here. AND on the other hand, if we moved elsewhere, he wouldn't be allowed to keep working for dude either. Seriously. It's just how we know it would go down. Sigh.

TL;DR - me & my boyfriend live with & rent a room from this dude. Dude man owns business which my bf (and other guys living here) work for. Essentially, my bf is either: A) not paid on time or B) not paid in full. Has money still owed to him but will never see it. Rent is due REGARDLESS of the fact he is not receiving the money to even PAY it. We give what we can on the 1st, but. Shit.

Advice?



Submitted December 03, 2016 at 04:45AM by c00c00 http://ift.tt/2fQvc5s Advice

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