This isn't something I would normally do. In-fact, this is my first time submitting anything on Reddit. This whole rant has to do with my boyfriends "mom". I add quotations because she is anything but a mom to him. For the past few years that we have been together I don't think I have ever seen her extend any type of love towards him. His mom and dad divorced when he was still in grade school and because of that him and his mom struggled for quite a few years. She did what she could financially while going to school at the same time for a nursing degree. I applaud her efforts. However, she one day out of the blue decided she was just going to up and quit her job to continue schooling. Which would have been all fine and dandy expect for the fact that she still had a son, two dogs, and a cat. Later on her mentally ill father started living with them as well. Now, you can only imagine how things turned out as far as living situations go. They were 10x worse than I could EVER imagine. When I would go over to their house it was as if the house had been condemned for several years. Dog and cat shit all over the floor, dishes hadn't been done for weeks, smoke butts all over the floor, food on the kitchen floor molding over, a thick layer of flies on everything. It was absolutely horrible. His mother just became a very angry person. They fought ALL the time over the smallest of things. For example, there was an instance when she asked my boyfriend and I to go to the store and get her a few things. One of those items included mint chocolate chip icecream. Guess what we forgot? Apparently we "don't care about her feelings" and "she does everything around this house and she gets disrespected". It even escalated to her screaming at my boyfriend "I bet you are glad I gave birth to you". All because she didn't get her ice cream. Keep in mind, she has an older daughter who cut all ties to her mother because of these exact reasons. Anyway, she graduated from college with her Bachelors degree in Nursing and then started bitching at my boyfriend that he needed to do more with his life. Needed a job and needed to go to college. (He is 18 at the time). A very reasonable request. So what does he do? Gets a job and goes to school. What does SHE do? Stays at home, smokes weed, occasionally checks up on her dad, assuming she hasn't locked him in his room, and sleeps. All the while she is collecting the benefits of her dads veteran money to pay bills, which she hasn't been doing, and get very little food, which she ends up leaving open so the flies or the dogs can eat. How thoughtful. Or she buys food that is supposed to be in the freezer or refrigerator and just leaves it out to spoil. Smart huh? So, I ended up moving in with them over the summer because she claimed "I am a much better person when you are around". Which to some degree is true. She doesn't fight as much with my boyfriend anymore. Instead she just lets it build up and then it all spills out at once into a 6 hour long argument. The argument I'm referring to? She asked both of us who wanted to go Bed Bath and Beyond with her, because for some reason she doesn't like driving alone, and neither of us wanted to. Talk about a shit storm. It turned into a screaming match basically. She pointed fingers at me and said I "breached" a contract we had. The contract was spoken and all it contained was the fact that I would get a job and pay for all of my own necessities. I had a job for a while but it turned out to be something I didn't enjoy, so I quit. And since I didn't tell her right away she was all butt hurt. Since I didn't have a job she thought I wasn't paying for my things anymore. Little did she know, that since I wasn't planning on staying any longer than 3 months, and when I had quit my job I only had a couple weeks left, my parents just handed over some money to help me out the last 2 weeks I was going to be there. When I decided, regretfully, that I was going to stay longer I got another job. I've never needed her to pay for anything of mine. Then she starts in on how since her son is now 20 years old he needs to start picking up some slack. Which includes paying the rent. WHICH HE CAN'T AFFORD. He goes to school and works full time and still makes shit for money. Hell if my parents knew I was struggling to get on my feet they wouldn't throw something bigger at me to knock me down again. In-fact my sister, who is 23, recently moved back in with my parents because of an abusive relationship and they don't make her pay rent. They just ask her to clean up after herself. Just because neither of us didn't want to go to a store with her, we all of a sudden have to start paying her. Which we all know is going towards her weed. Which is why she hasn't been paying her car payment, which is why she didn't pay the water bill. Now my boyfriend and I do what we can. We clean up after ourselves, we work, we buy EVERYTHING ON OUR OWN. And she still complains. The thing that pissed me off enough to write this was the fact she wrote a big long nasty paragraph on FACEBOOK, of all places, about her son. She thinks that she is "respecting" him for turning over the financial responsibility on to him. She is "finally able to buy clothes for herself now that she has been freed up of some money". CLothes must be code for weed. She boasts about how she was such a good single mother because she went to nursing school and had on and off jobs and did so much for him and his schooling. Since he is now 20 and the legal age of an adult in the state of Nebraska is 19, he is now on his own. She has a Bachelors degree in Nursing. She hasn't had a job in 5 years. She claims that she is going to go back to school for whatever reason and can't have a job distracting her. She is almost 60 years old. She also thinks that since she has done so much "good" to us that she deserves to be paid back for everything. She isn't a parent. She is lazy. She is entitled to nothing.
Submitted September 20, 2015 at 10:13PM by SugarBerryBlue http://ift.tt/1LGAuof rant
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