Should I feel bad for not wanting to be housemates with someone who triggers my anxiety? Anxiety

Should I feel bad for not wanting to be housemates with someone who triggers my anxiety?

My friend is a nice person, but he has very messy shared living space habits. Within the past few months I have become very anxious about the cleanliness of the kitchen area. (probably after my mom's house had rats). If I see a spot or food particle on a dish or silverware I have to find a clean one or wash the dirty one if there aren't any others to use.

My friend leaves his dishes sitting around the living room or in the sink (taking up space when I need to wash my dishes). But, he never cleans his dishes or puts them in the dishwasher. Also, I get very frustrated and disgusted when my housemates leave takeout boxes in the refrigerator for 2 weeks or more (again in my mom's house, there are always many moldy things lurking in the refrigerator for me to clean out when I visit).

I don't want to be anybody's maid or nagging parent. I have had to ask my friend many times to clean his dishes or pans after they have been sitting dirty for days. He picks them up when I ask, but then the next time, I have to ask again. It is really a constant stress on me and causes anxiety to confront him about his filthy living habits.

Our lease is up soon, so I feel bad that he will have to find somewhere to live separately, but I can't think of any other option.

Submitted November 06, 2016 at 02:16AM by depression_anxiety9 http://ift.tt/2epEwYz Anxiety