My boyfriend's parents live about 8 hours away and are coming to visit for the first time since we've been together. He's been saying for the past month that he wants me to meet them, that he's excited because he feels like it's a big step in our relationship, and that he feels it signifies we're getting more serious. We have plans to get dinner with them on Friday.
His parents are very Catholic, and he is not. He was raised with Catholic values but since he's lived 8 hours away from them for the last 7 years, he no longer follows Catholic traditions, attends church, and recently told me he's not sure he really believes in God at all. I'm not religious in the slightest.
So this week, he's been gathering all of my belongings from around his apartment for me to take home while they're in town. I.e. My toothbrush out of the bathroom, my phone charger, pajamas, condoms, he took down the Valentine card I gave him that was hanging on his refrigerator, etc.
He also told me we'll have to stay at our respective apartments this weekend even though we normally spend every weekend together. He said when we get dinner with them on Friday we can't get meat because it's Lent, even though we had chicken together for dinner last Friday. He'll be attending church with them on Sunday even though I've never seen him go to church since we've been together.
I'm honestly a little hurt that he's changing so much when they come to town. I get that they're his parents and he doesn't want to disrespect them, but he's an adult. I feel hurt because it feels like he's removing all traces of me from his apartment and hurt that he doesn't want me to stay over this weekend like I normally do.
I jokingly said something along the lines of "wow, it feels like we're breaking up" when he gave me a bag of stuff to take back to my apartment yesterday. He kissed me and said "we're not breaking up, you're here to stay!" But it's still a little hurtful.
I don't know if I'm being ridiculous by being hurt by this, or if this is even normal behavior for a grown 25 year old man to be changing this much just because his parents are coming to visit. Is it something I should take personally and something I should address with him, or just ride it out and see how the weekend goes?
Tl;dr: boyfriends parents are very Catholic and coming to town. Neither of us are religious. Boyfriend is removing all traces of me from his apartment so it doesn't appear that I stay over with him. I'm slightly hurt and feel like he's trying to "hide" me, and worried about how he's going to change when they're in town. Should I address it, or just ride it out and see how the weekend goes?
Submitted February 18, 2016 at 06:14PM by Rawrokay http://ift.tt/1SB99MF relationships
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