About a week ago I hung what I thought was a perfectly nice photo up on my refrigerator door. The picture is of my mom and and her dog in her office (my mom is a nurse and brings the dog into work occasionally). She is looking down at the dog, who has a goofy grin on his face, and one of her clients is sitting in the background smiling. Overall its a pretty silly photo, and I thought it would be perfect to hang on my fridge.
Well apparently my roommate did not feel the same way; at first when he saw it he said something like "dude why would you want to put a picture of your mom on the fridge?", and for the next few days he kept doing stupid stuff like putting the magnet over my mom's face. Now I should mention here that he and I have a pretty jokey relationship and we are constantly playing pranks on each other. One day I came home and he had taped a cutout picture of batman over my mom's face which I thought was funny if not slightly annoying. Each time he did something like this I fixed the picture without saying anything. However last night I stayed over at my girlfriend's house and when I came home in the morning I noticed that he had taken the picture down and hidden it under a stack of papers on the table. This bugged me quite a bit and I decided to confront him about it.
When he came home I asked him "Why does this picture bug you so much" and he said the he didn't like the idea of pictures of other people's family members being displayed in common spaces of our house (I should also mention that I have two other roommates and while I haven't involved either of them I HIGHLY doubt that they would care at all about this issue). I told him that he was more than welcome to put up pictures of his own family. He said it would be fine if I put up a picture of just my dog but not my mom. He asked me why I was making such a big deal about it and I said "look I think its a nice picture and I just want to be able to see my mom and my dog, how does that harm you", and he told me that I could just put it up in my room. I was pretty upset at this point and I told him that thought he was being totally unreasonable before leaving the room, and I haven't spoken to him since
I feel like his reaction to this situation has been totally ridiculous. I've tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and I've considered the possibility that he has family issues that would make him uncomfortable with others flaunting their happy family in front of him, but I know him pretty well and I don't think that this is the case. His parents are divorced but I know that he still has a very healthy relationship with both of them. Really i think he his just being a control freak; he is extremely particular and tends to nitpick about small things like this. We have had similar arguments in the past but this is the most ridiculous by far.
Do you think he has a right to deny my putting up a picture of my mom and dog in our common space? I'm trying to see things from his perspective but I'm having trouble...
tl;dr I put up a picture of my mom on my refrigerator and my roommate flipped out. Wat do.
Submitted February 21, 2017 at 07:24AM by iahmbt http://ift.tt/2lFwzGm relationships
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