How does everyone else deal with a situation where someone you're around suddenly starts acting different. Based upon circumstances, probably related to something they were just doing, but you can't tell. They aren't verbally expressing themselves about it so you're left to decrypt the whole thing yourself.
The only reason you know, (in my case) is because their faces are expressing something different. Here's where my main problem is, I have problems discerning emotions and some facial expressions related to emotions.
So, say your friend is working on a broken refrigerator and doing some trivial repairs. He hits a bump in procedure and finds a bigger than expected problem, which turns out to be incredibly frustrating to repair without a certain tool but he tries anyway without getting much further. After some amount of toil , the problematic step is passed and he continues with the last couple needed steps to fix the unit's freezing capabilities. Afterwards he stops and says, "let's watch go watch a movie"
Okay. Sounds fine, so we go watch a movie, but he isn't very engaged with it. His face is kind of tense or his eyebrows are down and unrelaxed, he isn't really talking. Perhaps his movements are kind of "rigid" and sudden or forceful.
Since this is one I was able to think of I can tell he's simply aggravated at the repairs being so difficult to finish.
In a real situation, I'm nearly clueless as to what many sudden changes in body language and facial expressions means. I myself get upset wondering if they're mad at me or because I'm having so much difficulty knowing what's different. It becomes exhausting and ruins my afternoon because I can't adjust to their change in presence, and how I should behave around them.
Usually when I'm on the angry side of things I don't want someone joking to me about a point in a movie. I don't want my failure to result in, again, inappropriate behavior compared to their state.
So. The point of the thread after I've rambled and made a mess of it by typing from my phone, how do you guys and girls cope with being slow to notice/adjust to someone else's mood, body language, facial expressions... Etc, when you don't know what's going on?
Asking seems like the last resort, so any pointers aside from that would be most helpful. Thanks :o
Submitted July 22, 2015 at 06:14PM by Lutero_Kinkade http://ift.tt/1OwX2Lk aspergers
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