TIFU by sticking around in an abusive relationship tifu

I am a vegan, and I am involved in animal rights, to the point of helping organize events on occasion. (I know it's a cliche to be vegan and to begin by saying that, but there is a point to it here.) I had been dating a (non-vegan) girl (Alyssa) for a while. She would often say things that I thought were rather hurtful. For example, we were riding bicycles last week, and she said I looked like a gorilla. I would brush these occasional personal attacks and insults off as just part of her feisty personality. Perhaps I ignored them because I wanted to be with her. One thing that I definitely did not like was the fact that she was opposed to my being vegan. One day, she was going through my refrigerator and was looking at the "Go Veggie" cheese slices I had there. In reading the label on the back, it turns out that, unbeknownst to me, these "Veggie" cheese slices actually contain milk. That was the start of her telling me that I'm "not vegan." Of course, from my perspective, I was the victim of false advertizing, and, if I had done anything wrong, it had been to be a bit careless in my label reading. I found it irritating that she would insist that I was "not vegan" for this infraction, but I brushed that off, as well.

Fast forward to tonight. Our plan was to ride bikes to a festival. I had to leave the festival for a short while to meet up with some fellow vegans for a small demonstration later in the night that would only take a few minutes, and the plan was to meet up again afterwards. When we arrived at the festival, she ordered a plate of cheese curds, mozarella sticks, and fries. We sat, and she ate the cheese, and I ate the fries, and everything was fine. Then, I noticed she was taking my picture in front of the plate of food. She threatened "jokingly" that she was going to post my picture to facebook showing that I was "not vegan". I brushed it off.

Soon, I had to meet up with my vegan friends for the demonstration, in which we held candles to "light the path" for animal liberation. I had planned on only meeting up for a 30 minutes, but, once we got to talking, it of course took longer, closer to an hour. Afterwards, I hurried back to meet up with her and her, but now she was angry that I had taken longer than expected, and had left. I tried to call numerous times to catch up with her to no avail, and ended up having to bike home alone.

A bit later, photos of the demonstration were appearing on facebook, simultaneously with photos of other activists from around the world "lighting the path." As they were appearing, Alyssa posted the photo of me in front of the large plate of cheese curds with the title "cheese curds, yum!". Basically, she made it look like I had gone from eating a large plate of cheese curds directly to a vegan protest, which I'm sure was confusing for my vegan friends.

Needless to say, our relationship ended tonight, and what kind of damage was done to the trust my animal rights friends had in me is still unclear.

TL;DR: Ignored warning signs of bad partner. Suffered consequences.

Submitted July 26, 2015 at 01:46PM by 1creeper http://ift.tt/1VGMuOF tifu