Wednesday, October 21, 2015

I moved in with my boyfriend and his cat can't stand mine; our household is unbearable, what can we do? Pets

This is going to be a long read and I apologize for that but I feel I need to cover all the details to really get some help.

I've already posted about my cat before, here. Jazzpurr was my new cat while I still lived in my old apartment and Ginger was the resident. Ginger has since gone back to my parents' house and is much happier and relaxed now that she is back to being the only cat.

Well now I've moved in with my boyfriend who also a has a cat, Maude. Maude and Jazzpurr were both from the same foster home and had only been separated for about 3-4 months. They seemed to still recognize each other but Maude was a little pissed another cat was coming into her home. We kept Jazzpurr put up in the spare bedroom for a time (longer than a week) but eventually had to let him out because he was digging up actual chunks of carpet around the door trying to escape.

The cats seemed to be fine, Maude didn't prefer Jazzpurr to touch her or try to play with her but we could all sit on the couch together without issue. And then out of nowhere, maybe two weeks ago, Jazzpurr just began taking off chasing Maude across the house. She throws a spitting, howling fit and eventually chose the kitchen cabinets as her refuge. I read that sometimes the cats just have to chase it out and establish dominance. Jazzpurr wasn't trying to hurt Maude so we ignored it. Then came the day they knocked over a glass and broke it, stupidly causing an argument between me and my boyfriend. And then came the day Maude peed off the refrigerator onto the kitchen counters and pooped on top of the kitchen cabinets.

At that point we began separating them at night because it always seems to be when we are in bed that Jazzpurr tries to chase Maude. Or at least at night. Two nights ago they broke a Mason jar when Jazzpurr launched onto the kitchen counter to get to Maude. So we tried bringing Maude into our room at night to sleep with us. Jazzpurr cried outside the door throughout the night and began digging again at the carpet at the door. I had to sleep in the spare room with him.

During the day when we are gone, we learned we couldn't have Jazzpurr be the one placed in the bedroom because he ripped up our carpet. So we now put Maude up but Jazzpurr digs at the carpet trying to get in to her...

Most nights we now try to keep Jazzpurr in the room with us but then Maude doesn't get any attention and sometimes Jazzpurr STILL digs at the carpet to be let out but we obviously can't let him. It is almost 2 a.m. where I am right now and I'm up typing this because tonight, we decided to put Maude in the bedroom to sleep with us. My boyfriend went to the bathroom and when he opened our bedroom door to come back in, Jazzpurr ran past him and went after Maude. We shooed Jazzpurr out but then he started crying and, of course, digging at the carpet to get in with us. So I just decided to leave our room and stay in the spare bedroom with Jazzpurr.

I have not had a single full night's sleep since moving in last month and I am so fucking on edge because of these cats. We have tried playing with Jazzpurr until he is literally falling over from being worn out (we constantly give him attention when we are home) and even distracting him with a laser when he would start to chase Maude. But he eventually started ignoring that. We've tried the pheromone sprays, spraying him with water, practically everything the internet says. But we can't keep allowing him to chase her until she gets "used to it" or whatever because then she traps herself on the kitchen cabinets and won't even come down for the litter box. Please guys, help me out because I start school full-time very soon and cannot be doing this every night. I miss sleeping with my boyfriend and I miss sleep, period.

TLDR: MY CAT IS A FUCKING ASSHOLE WHO WON'T BE CHILL AND STOP CHASING MY BOYFRIEND'S CAT.

EDIT: We've tried putting towels down around the door when we have to keep one shut but Jazzpurr just claws at it until he can move it and get to the carpet. what hteuckfuck.



Submitted October 21, 2015 at 12:24PM by Songbird07 http://ift.tt/1ZWkAQJ Pets

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