My ex husband was physically abusive to me through out our relationship. In 2012 I had to call the police on him and he was arrested for domestic assult in the third degree. His parents bailed him out, I took him back. After a few months of his failing promises to change, I made him leave. We had two children together, now six and almost four. I thought it was best for them to try to make it work so they would have their Mom and Dad together. I realize us apart was healthier and better for them then us together.
He of course made the divorce process difficult, him knowing I couldn't afford a lawyer. He refused to sign the papers so I had to make sacrifices and compromises to get him to do so. I thought since he was living with his family the kids would have a safe place to visit their father. I was wrong.
Our six year old daughter comes home with bruises and strange stories. There is a cousin that is a few months younger then her that says sexual things to her. The same cousin has set things on fire in the house. The kids have no room or even a bed to sleep in. It's a three bedroom house that has five adults, my ex husband, the brother, the sister get the rooms and their parents sleep in the living room. There is no refrigerator in the house. Their grandmother who often watches them while their Dad is at work is an alcohlic and drinks while shes watching them. All of these things and more were reported to the family division of social services. We were met with appalling standards.
Our investigator told us the county the children's father resides in has low standards of living. A non foster child is not required to have their own room or even a bed. There is no standard for having a refrigerator, and the kids weren't malnourished, which they wouldn't be since they stay with my husband and I through out the week. They were told to supervise the children better and recommended the grandmother not be left alone with the children. We were told that the cousin isn't older or bigger then our daughter so he's just exploring!
Our investigator told us to hire a lawyer to modify custody. The lawyers we have spoken to have said the case is enough to reopen an it will cost about 2500$. My ex husband is contesting due to the fact we are seeking child support. He would rather pay for a lawyer then help the children.
We live in southwest Missouri. My husband works 50 hours a week making airplane parts, tank parts and things of that nature. I am a stay at home mom due to the high cost of child care outweighing what I brought in and cause im super lucky to get to be! :) We have three beautiful children. My husband is an amazing father to our children. We need help coming up with the cost of the legal fees! Please donate so we can modify our custody to give the kids a safe stable environment all the time! We have a gofundme account set up. http://ift.tt/1yQyjy1
Thank you so much to everyone who donates and reads this!!
Submitted April 23, 2015 at 12:17AM by madds89 http://ift.tt/1JcKGs3 Assistance
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