I posted a couple of months ago about finally getting my daughter into therapy. We had to change insurances because our old one was just shitty when it came to mental health.
Shes been to see a couple of different therapist so far. We were trying to find the one who was the best fit for her.
The first guy she saw was very good. He made her feel comfortable enough to talk to him and ever since she has been full steam ahead about the entire thing. Because my kiddo is pan sexual (she described it as not caring about gender, just who the person is) the therapist asked if she'd like to talk to someone who specialises in lgbq+ stuff.
That appointment was a trip, in a good way. The lady talked to both of us and was just wonderful. Turns out I'm doing everything right in this area supporting and accepting my kiddo. Usually this therapist helps getting parents to understand and accept who their kid is. When my daughter related what her dad said when she came out to him "I wouldn't care if you loved a refrigerator" she really laughed. So in this area kiddo is well adjusted and supported and therapist said she didn't need to see kiddo again. She did recommend a lady who she thought would be the right fit.
So I took kiddo to see the new therapist a few days ago and daughter lover her. She was patient and funny and just what my she needed. They talked a little about coping tools and what daughter can do and how I can help. They talk more about that next session.
Overall, my daughter has improved drastically already. She started taking a low dose of antidepressant to work concurrently with therapy. Since this all started she hasn't had anymore angry outbursts caused by being so overwhelmed. Her and her dad just talked for like 2 hours the other night. He said that hasn't happened pretty much ever. Before she would just tell him to go away and leave her alone. She's always mad at him because of his work schedule it feels like he abandoned her.
Husband has been making a huge effort to spend more time with both kids and now that the family doesn't feel like we need to walk on eggshells to keep from setting daughter off things are just good. The whole house is just so much more relaxed and pleasant.
There have been so many times in the past couple weeks where daughter has reacted to something in such a calm way were before she would have started screaming. My husband just silently looks at me and gives me this WTF just happened looked and smiles.
We still have a long road ahead and a lot of work but we're all so hopeful and inspired especially kiddo. She is really loving that she feels so much more in control of her emotions now. She said she thinks she'll even want to do some appointments without me in there with her. I want her to do this so she doesn't need to worry about saying something to hurt my feelings. She's also going to start going to a weekly girls group. I'm making sure not to push her. Everything is her choice, including the meds.
Daughter even told me that I should start my own therapy. Maybe I will do that.
Submitted November 12, 2017 at 10:28PM by fuckthisiwantwhiskey http://ift.tt/2AEgPIs breakingmom
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