Which is unfortunate because otherwise he is an absolutely wonderful person. Kind hearted, creative, INTELLIGENT, and the most genuine person Ive ever met. Yet he is so bad at navigating through adulthood that at times I find myself worrying about our safety. Were both 31 and have lived (supposedly) on our own in the past. In the two yrs that I have lived with him I have witnessed(and been personally affected) by him going through multiple jobs, consistently leaving the burners on after cooking and just leaving, ruining his car(s) bc he ignores engine trouble.Getting his ENTIRE bank account wiped out without notice by mystery debt collectors, or for ignoring to file taxes for 8 yrs. Using the refrigerator and leaving the door wide open. Never locking a single door. Leaving the front door to the house wide open overnight. Turning on faucets and leaving them running. Leaving food out on countertops or tables or backpacks or the fridge for weeks/months/possibly years until they liquify. Leaving a tank of gas in his trunk for MONTHS ignoring my nags to take it out until it finally cracked and spilled gas all over his car.I dont allow him to touch my laundry anymore after the 20th time that he came back with several items less than he took. Having things spill all over the floor and never wiping them up. He is incapable of planning anything at all and seeing it through or making it to ontime. Earlier this week we had tickets to a concert he had been looking forward to for MONTHS but bc he couldnt manage time to drive or prepare and didnt confirm the start time we missed the whole show. My patience finally reached a boiling point two days after the show when he left for work and left his morning 'business' in the toilet without flushing it. This has become the pesky little new habit of his, and its almost insane that EVEN this I have to come around the corner and take care of for him. I feel like I am dating a high-functioning toddler. His brain almost works so fast its often several hundred steps ahead of what he is currently doing and cant seem to stay focused on anything for more than 4 sec. When I address that I dont want to spend all of my free time cleaning up his messes and reminding him about his appointments and making sure he checked his engine oil before work he either defaults to two reactions. Defensive about being treated like a child, or flat out denial that he does any lf the aforementioned things. I may sound like a super nagging insatiable gf but understand that this is a DAILY affair. And Im just about at my wits end. Im starting to resent him and I feel like Ive just settled for dissapointment in my relationship, but we cant seem to work through any of these issues. He comes fron that generation when kids were over-diagnosed for this dissorder and that dissorder and was given EXTREMELY high doses of Ridilin that really fucked him up for a while until he had to quit taking them cold turkey. I feel like he uses the 'Im bad at life because I have ADD' excuse more like a crut h and not as a problem that needs to be addressed and approved upon. I cant picture myself ever feeling safe and secure living alone with him. Has anyone been in a similar situation that can offer a solution? Whenever I calm down and just try to talk to him, simply asking 'ok. So you have problems with attention. What can we do help that' Im never given a straight answer. Rather its a ' ive never felt so judged, or inadequate, whoah is me. I have add' response that never gets us anywhere... :\
tl;dr: Does anyone else deal with this? Is there hope at this age??
Submitted August 06, 2017 at 10:21AM by RunRaggid http://ift.tt/2v8bcBj relationships
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