Let me say this first. I didn't enjoy hitting him and I felt terrible while doing it. Also I hit him so that he wouldn't be injured in any way, much like two spanks with my hand. I just assumed he would connect a habit to physical displeasure. How wrong I was indeed. This being said I will not ever hit him again.
So I am a 24 yo working single guy, living in a two bedroom apartment. So I adopted a male kitten of @8 weeks on 22 october, with the thought of not feeling lonely when coming from work, and at the same time providing a home for a cat. Needless to say the whole weekend and monday he meowd non stop. And I mean non stop until his voice kinda gave out. For the first 3 to 4 days I had like 8 hours of sleep total. Sometimes he would stop, while cuddling with me and purring or sleeping, but most of the time he was meowing. During this he was also urinating in the bed and I accommodated to this by putting his litter box, uncovered, right next to the bed so he would see and use it more easily. While stalking him and taking him to his litter box right about when trying to urinate I successfully thought him to use the litter and I was very happy. Also he had this nasty habbit of climbing my feet while standing and I thought him not to do it by tucking him over his head repeatedly till he lets go. (which he didn't seem to mind and hate me for it) So... I assumed he cried for his mum and it will pass. And in fact during the following two weeks he did appear not to meow for his mum anymore.
Ever since my first day at work (in which he probably felt abandoned and probably meowd like there's no tomorrow and thats why lost his voice) he became VERY clingy and nosy. Whenever it was that I did anything that didn't involve him he would meow nonstop and super loud all the while trying to distract me any way he could. I do love him but I don't want to stay on a chair with my kitten in my lap all day. And even if I stayed with him on my lap for a few hours and cuddle him nonstop he would consistantly have these random meows which made no sense. He was well fed, he has no medical problems, he knows to use the litter and he’s cuddling but he still meows every 30 seconds? Almost a completely consistent meow every 30 seconds. And as two weeks went by with me trying to ignore him sometimes and wean him off, there were no showing signs of him being less clingy. This, coupled with his random meowing were beginning to piss me off. I also heard kittens are supposed to sleep a lot, and he probably would, if I held him all the time. Anywhere else no. This appeared to be the case when I was active, when I was sleeping he became very quiet.
So this sunday I tried to wean his random meowing out by tucking him over the back of the head and saying “shush” whenever he would do so in the hopes of him associating “shush” to me disliking his meows. Then he began pissing me off even further due to him still having random meows but preparing hismself for a tucking after doing it. WTF??
Ok so then I left him alone and I started to build a PC which was a nightmare as you can probably figure out. He was all over the parts and me and I gradually began pushing him away more firmly. I did manage to finish the job after 9-10 solid hours. So after I finished setting up my desktop needless to say he was going lots of times to the cables in the back and it was extremely difficult for me to take him away from there every time, so what I did was slap him firmly when he was there (and this happened 2 or 3 times). But only after that I realised I could put something in a place so he couldn’t reach the cables. Too little too late. Ever since then he still follows me around but he’s concentrating ALL of his energy into playing almost ferally with anything. All the while not looking me in the eyes and not wanting to cuddle anymore (except for when he wants treats as he knows they are in the refrigerator). He also licks himself wherever I rub him and started to sometimes urinate in my beds again which saddened me greatly. (I read that he does this to impose his scent over mine. Does this mean he sees me as some sort of enemy or rival now?). Also instead of his random moews he now makes some little cry like a baby sobbing (which sounds and makes me so sad).
Now it’s Tuesday and I took the day off from work to mend my relationship with him, but even though he seems to become slightly affectionate to me again he still tries to urinate outside the litter box. I plan to lock him in the bathroom for 30 minutes whenever he tries urinating outside the litter box. At this point I don’t even know what to do anymore and just become friends again. I didn’t know cats become so hateful after they are hit and I also regret it so much.
Sorry for my long post.
Submitted November 08, 2016 at 07:33PM by fleathemighty http://ift.tt/2fk5eDA Pets
No comments:
Post a Comment