Me 27f him 43m: we're getting married in 7 weeks and I feel like he has way too much stuff in his house. relationship_advice

I know there is an age difference, but I don't feel like that's an issue in this particular instance, other than he's had more years than me to aquire more things. So here's the problem.

like I said, we're getting married in 7 weeks and I couldn't be more excited. I knkw he's excited too. The only problem is that he has too much stuff. The cabinets are overflowing. He has a shed full of stuff, a storage unit full of stuff, and recently his car, which isn't currently running has become a sort of storage unit. It drives me absolutely insane how much stuff he has. Part of the reason is that his mother passed away 3 years ago. He moved Into her house and also inherited all of her stuff. Meaning he has at least 2 of almost everything. Here's a short list of just some of the things in his kitchen:

• 30+ dinner plates

• 30+ bowls

• 63 glasses on one cabinet shelf I counted just now.

• at least 8 complete canister sets.

• 2 refrigerators

• 3 hand mixers

• 3 blenders

• 2 toasters

• enough old mail to build a small mail village

You get where im going with this. Not to mention some of the ex-wifes shit, but thats a whole other story. The problem is that he works 12 hour shifts 5 days a week. I've repeatedly stressed in the nicest way possible to please clean out some stuff. Now we're down to the last few weeks until we get married and nothing is being done.

How do I approach this?

Tell him that until he gets his house clean I wont be spending time at his house?

Tell him it's fine, but it'd be a shame to get married and have his wife sleeping at her moms because he wont clean?

Or am I overreacting too much?

Right now there isn't even room for a wedding gift. I am so frustrated over all of this. We both have lugage, but it would be nice to be able to start a home without as much luggage if possible.

How to I relay this to him without being mean, but at the same time letting him know I am dead serious about this.

Submitted June 10, 2016 at 07:55PM by Cleaning_throwaway http://ift.tt/1XLm15O relationship_advice