My Wife and my ADD PI ADHD

I am a thirty seven year old man. Even though I was diagnosed with ADD PI, I do not take medication. I was diagnosed three times in my life. Once when I was a child, once in my mid-twenties and once last week. All done by different doctors.

My wife is the best, mostly. She sees my inadequacies and attempts to correct them by changing my environment. Here are a few examples:

1. I am constantly losing my daily items such as keys wallet and phone and even have dedicated places on my person for them. When we leave the house she say, “Keys, wallet and phone.” I then check my pockets and go retrieve any item that I am missing. I once lost my wallet for two hours because I put it in the wrong pocket. Wallet and phone in the left and the key in the right, so they won’t scratch the phone. She started a system for me. She bought a basket and placed it in a convenient location in the house. I dump the contents of my pockets in the basket and I rarely lose my items…at home. Its works great except when it doesn’t but it works more often than not.

2. She leave my food in the refrigerator at eye level and in front. This is due to me wasting food that I don’t know I have because I can’t see it when I open the door. Out of sight, out of mind. Routine helps a lot. It’s a pain in the butt for her but she does it and I love her for it.

3. She leaves notes for me at my eye level or where she knows I will see it. One time she left a notes on my wallet. I told her, “That might not be a good place to leave me the note, I may never find it.” At first I took offence to this, as if she was telling me what to do. Most likely, she asked me to complete a task several times and I just didn’t do it. If was usually something that I should have done. Sometimes it works but sometimes I just overlook the note. Then I get yelled at.

4. From when I was a child to now, I love video games. I play almost every night. Most wives do not encourage this trait in a man. My wife may prefer it for some reason. When I play them I can focus for long periods of time. It’s amazing. My computer failed to start the other day and she immediately tell me to buy another one. However, I will not due this. I will attempt to troubleshoot and replace the part. For some reason, technical activities entertain me and it gives me a sense of fulfillment when I can solve problems. I am an engineer by schooling, civil. Damn, this part was not supposed to be about me, sorry. My wife encourages gaming and is OK with me spending money on it because I think she knows it soothes me. It’s the one thing in life where my attention is fully focused. It makes me feel good and she knows it.

I’m sure there are several more examples but it takes me a long while to write and I don’t want to concentrate anymore. I may or may not proof read this before I post it, sorry.

The most recent doctor recommended Concerta. He also said he will never subscribe Adderall for adults. I thought this was odd. I didn’t tell my wife I saw the doctor as I am a bit ashamed. I kind of feel like I am being dishonest with her by not telling her. This is also, very personal to me. I don’t want anyone to know. I don’t want to be labeled which is funny because I was always labeled as lazy and unmotivated/uninterested growing up. I am not stupid but I’m afraid I am.

Please respond if you like. Any comments are welcome. Also, it took me an hour and fifteen minutes to write this.

TL;DR: My wife is rad and accommodates my ADD PI with life hacks. Also, I may be stupid.

Submitted December 04, 2015 at 05:14AM by Solo_T http://ift.tt/1MZz8Z7 ADHD