My ex-husband and I have been divorced a few years now. We have 2 beautiful daughters together ages 10 & 8. I was the one who left him due to emotional abuse towards myself and our kids, he is a very selfish controlling person, I could go on and on about all of the issues we had but I'm trying to keep it short. When we divorced his Mom paid for the best family attorney in our city and i was unable to pay for one at all (my family doesn't believe in divorce therefore they weren't even talking to me at this point). We ended up with split 50-50 custody but he is titled the primary care giver. With this title he is supposed to carry their insurance, maintain Dr appts, and everything else of the sort. However he does none of this. He doesn't even know who there Dr's are. I have always been the one to do all of this and more. At one point he was without a refrigerator for almost an entire year. It wasn't until I threatened to turn him in for it that he replaced it. He doesn't make sure that they are fed or bathed properly. His mom takes care of everything(cleaning, feeding, brushing teeth) when he has them. Now he has a new girlfriend who is doing some of this for him. My daughters always come back to my house with lice. I have spent over $300 on lice products (don't use over the counter remedies. Use pure tea tree oil for the best results). He has gotten into a few fist fights with people while my kids were in his care and most recently was in a vehicle accident and charged with DUI. The girls were with me when that happened. I am currently engaged to be married. My fiance and I have a son together. He is currently a Staff Sargent with the Army National Guard and is wanting to go full active duty (switching over to Army). If he does this then we would have to move another state and possibly another country. This will benefit the family with better medical coverage, better schooling options, we would be a lot better off financially, but they wouldn't be able to see their Dad as often as they do now. They have told me that they don't want to go to their Dads many times also. He does call them names and talks down to them in a way that a child should never have to endure. If I were to get a lawyer would I have a chance at all of getting full custody? My parents have told me that no judge would side with me because I would be taking them away from their dad. Thanks for any advice.
Edit: located in Iowa
Submitted May 14, 2015 at 01:53AM by ghost_cat_purr http://ift.tt/1E6fDWP legaladvice
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