Hey Reddit,
I really need your help. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Yes, I'm aware that our age difference is taboo, but that's not why I'm posting here tonight.
This is going to be long. Our refrigerator broke last week and we cannot afford to replace/repair it anytime soon which makes dinner kind ifs hassle. We decided to have spaghetti and we've been making our food in quantities that we can eat right away. My SO was tired from a long day at work so I offered to make dinner. I ended up cooking too much spaghetti and my boyfriend came in complaining about it. Which, I apologized for. This went on for 15 minutes non stop. Not only did he complain about the fact that I had made to much for the two of us but he complained about my method of making spaghetti so he just took over. I made some subtle comments about how he was hurting my feelings but I could hear him from the living room continue to complain wen after the spaghetti was cooked and on our plates. I got pissed off at this point and attempt to go back into the kitchen to dispose of mine since I had lost my appetite completely. I pass him in the door way and say 'get out of my way' and instead, he shoves me and starts yelling. I set down my plate and yell back. He proceeds to insult me by saying 'now I know why your dad left your mom' or something like that. So I go back into the living room and at this point we are both pretty heated. I don't really remember anything that is said until he calls my mom 'a dumb bitch' at which point I pick up a empty 7-11 cup and throw it at him, hitting him in the face (it was plastic). I yell 'don't talk about my mother like that' and then before I know it he lunges at me an pushes me against the wall and grabs my neck, and squeezes. He proceeds to tell all kinds of insults and actually said 'if you ever do that again I will kill you'.
I'm completely taken aback by this whole thing. I know what I did was wrong, and I'm not the type that thinks that I have a right to hurt someone without retaliation but I was not expecting that at all. I ran in our bedroom and slammed the door. He continued to yell and say that I need to be out by morning.
Anyways, my boyfriend and I have always had pretty heated fights. We are both hard headed and temperamental. But NEVER has he gotten physical with me. He came from an abusive household, as did I. He hates men who hit women. So I'm at a complete loss of words, I don't know how to feel or what to do. After half an hour we talked, both apologized and now he's in bed right beside me. However I can't shake this horrible feeling I have towards him now. How could he love me and say such things? How could he threaten my life? That's what hurts the most. That's what's so shocking to me. I told him I am kind of shocked and why would he say that, and his reply was 'I wasn't serious, I would never hurt you, but you hurt me' Is he justified? Am I overreacting? I kind of want to leave tomorrow while he's at work but I love him, and this came out of nowhere. We haven't fought in a long time.
what do I do?
TLDR; Boyfriend and I had argument. Boyfriend insulted me, I threw a plastic cup at boyfriend, he held me against wall and choked me.
Submitted October 10, 2014 at 10:59AM by throwmeawayone23 http://ift.tt/1sr7Lyq relationships
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