This actually has been building for a long time, but my younger brother is in no uncertain terms a mooch. I told him to leave tonight after he kinda mockingly said over the phone after a package was stolen I had asked about, "Might want to reconsider breaking your lease eh?"
Some context.
After our apartment was broken into this past weekend, along with others, including the apartment complex's storage shed where tools and equipment were taken.
My brother was obviously like myself in shock. He however chose to leave me by myself, and sleep at a friends house because he was upset and felt unsafe. Only one lock was broken, top lock works fine and the bottom will be repaired.
He offered no real support, emotional or otherwise, fine its a complex situation but, what the hell? Don't normal family members support each other? We are not that dysfunctional, kinda trying to hold things together as the one keeping a roof over your head.
But fine, I thought, do what makes you comfortable, I am staying. I am not fleeing my home because of something like this. Yes, they made off with thousands of dollars worth of stuff collected over the past decade. But, lesson learned, have both locks locked so people cannot pry open your door so easily.
He then came back home the next day and proceeded to say how I should break my lease, the area is unsafe; he is leaving, etc. I am thinking to myself what area is 100% safe? He reiterated like he usually has that the situation around there is just bad.
All this coming from a lazy asshole who has done NOTHING to contribute to the household since he stopped giving me money weekly to contribute to rent, six plus months ago.
I have fed, kept a roof over his head, and done the decent thing by my little brother. But he has NEVER offered of his own free will to consistently do chores to make up or contribute since he was not paying rent.
Before when I tried a rotational system, he would do a chore once, or part of it, then claim he was done with it. And whenever I would do the chore, he would cause a mess and or do something to leave a mess and not bother cleaning up after himself.
Consistently.
When I confronted him previously about the issues, he just kept bitching about how bad the area was, how things are bad, and how this and that is going on. Without taking responsibility for his actions, claiming that I did such and such when I was talking about him.
All the while, not doing a thing about the things he can control or take care of, such as, paying me RENT!
He claimed his part-time job was not giving him enough hours to support himself and college last year. Fine. Then he dropped out of college for a year, stopped paying me rent for the last six months of that year, last year, then gave me only HALF of what he owed me when tax season came around.
Then he started giving me rent money again, then he stopped, then sporadically he would give me money. Finally he just stopped.
So, I pulled strings, used some of my own and my boss's pull to get him a full time position where I work. Not what he wants to do forever, but it paid more than his part-time work, was full time, and pretty easy to do but hard to master like anything worthwhile.
All he had to do was show up and fill out an application. He was in the door, the application was a formality.
He did not bother to do even that.
A previous attempt to get him hired was met with failure sure, and he was pumped, faking it I think, about getting better work. Making plans for the income, and other things, but he did not "interview well" or some other BS.
So I did my part, but in the end he told me again how he "did not want to work there" all the while selfishly still living under the same roof as me and not doing anything, even offering a simple hello how are you, when I get home from work at night.
He claimed all sorts of reasons for not contributing over the last two years of this BS, or in general not doing any chore sharing. Mostly focusing on how the living environment is bad. If it was so bad, why did he not leave once came of age?
I asked him that tonight after I got home, after he told me that bit of bad news over the phone about the missing package. He says he does not want me to stay by myself and he was looking out for me.
How the fuck you look out for someone by not doing any chores when asked? Only offering excuse after excuse when you have no problem mustering the energy to go hang with friends, friends you claim after going out to watch football with at Applebees that you only went, "For the nachos" and that you had no fun.
Not offering any sum of cash, for a weekly rent of 45 dollars if paid on time, and 50 dollars due if given late. 200 dollar a month rent with food, Internet, and clothing if he really needed something from me.
He has claimed that he cannot pay me rent, because he "Had to feed himself" when he knows full well he is welcome to anything in the refrigerator, and can help with grocery shopping to get to help choose what goes into it.
Grocery trips, he weaseled out of by claiming his work hours were bad. Fine, fair enough, what about this day? Oh? More excuses? Go by yourself? How come you only buy things that you really like?
He tried psychological bullshit on me tonight again. Saying I was blaming him for my issues with other stuff.
No.
The issue was, and always was, you not chipping in after you stopped paying me rent and offering an endless list of reasons for not doing anything other than what you wanted to do around the house you supposedly hate living in.
Yes, I am angry over the apartment break-in, and a package to repair a friend of his laptop, it was a replacement screen, disappearing like three previous packages with my name on them, but his name seems to have no issues making it when on packages.
Between the postal theft, the lack of compassion for my feelings regarding said postal theft and the fact he just behaves like he does not owe me ANYTHING for letting him stay here rent free, I have been running a tab, he owes me over a thousand dollars at this point.
I told him flat out to apologize to me about his comments over the phone. I explained why I was upset, and told him that the next words out of his mouth better be an apology or he has to leave.
He went off on a tangent, the fuck man, and I realized immediately I fucked up, and I have to follow through on this because he has been a drain on me, not a benefit, and I may have to actually put his ass out so he has to grow up.
He went off on a tangent, I could not believe he found it so difficult to just say sorry, even if he did not mean it.
Stating how I was blaming my own problems on him. That the place is terrible, and etc. I know I am repeating myself, but, I just laid out what was wrong, why I was upset, and how he was at fault for his actions and his actions alone.
He did not have to mock me, he just needed to support me, but I could not get even that; or an apology when he knew the consequences could be me putting him out on his ass legally.
I am going to get an eviction notice if he does not vacate on his own. I am so tired of having someone around who cannot even say hello first when I get home; or even try to have conversations with me, about ANYTHING, or even simply say "Sorry" when asked to offer one after being told the result of not giving one would be expulsion.
Go mooch off one of your friends if you can Bro, see how long it lasts.
TLDNR?
Told my younger brother to GTFO after acting like he could live with me without any interaction with me or the apartment in a beneficial way since he was/is not paying rent; and not offering any real emotional support after the apartment got robbed, par for the course for him.
Submitted September 25, 2014 at 02:02PM by Xingetter http://ift.tt/1qxhlK5 tifu
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