Showing posts with label Assistance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Assistance. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

[REQUEST] Holidays were horrible, New Years starting off even worse. Assistance

First and foremost guys, YES I am a new account. My handle is sQQu33 or Squee if you prefer to be easier to say. The ONLY reason I'm a new account is because I never use Reddit and never have. I'm dealing with hard times right now, and some coworkers suggested I turn to r/assistance for help. I haven't been getting very many hours at work, recently from full time knocked down to part time in November. Right before the holidays too. Yay... I felt terrible all Christmas because my girlfriend and I just did not have the money to spare on anybody for Christmas gifts. We've received a random assortment of gifts from friends and family but it's terrible knowing that you couldn't get anyone anything. I'm deep in student loans and have been paying on them plus a number of other bills ranging from utilities to my stomach ulcers I had in 2016. Well end of the month last month we had bills due and paid what we could. Rent was due on the 1st this month, but our landlord gives us until 5pm on the 5th as a grace period without the everyday late fee. I don't get paid until Friday the 12th. By then our late fees would probably make me faint. Our rent is $825 total for our apartment, I have $300 to put towards it and my girlfriend has $100. I asked my family for money to borrow and my mom could only spare $50 to help out. Everyone is tapped out during the holidays it seems. So in total We have around $450 and a small jar of change we can take to a Coinstar or something. I'm very transparent with who I am. Just Google search "sQQu33" and a lot of my personal pages show up. I NEVER ask for help like this and I'm honestly scared for the next couple of days as we have nothing but condiments in our refrigerator and random baking stuff in our cupboards. I have a couple friends who are giving us some canned goods and dry foods. I'll be honest, buttered noodles are getting old fast the past 3 days. We have to eat something though. Our family Christmas dinner we pigged out like crazy because we've been on a terrible diet. We were able to take some leftovers home which helped us as well. Scares me when I look at my girlfriend and I can see she's worried and I am too but I can't show it to her. She's an amazing girl and I have to be her rock in times like these. So I reassure her I will figure this out. I don't mean to create a sob story but I truly do not know what to do in this situation. I'm living in a town way away from friends or family and all I have is her and a job here. We're stuck it seems. Anyways I will get straight to the point we need HELP! We need $350 or whatever anyone can muster up. I can send a picture of the paid rent receipt as well. I would've posted in r/borrow but I'm a new account and that's against their rules. I have no Reddit karma or anything like that. If anyone could send money to my PayPal, and (yes do it so you can charge back on me if you need to) that would be amazing. You can DM me for my info. I can pay whoever back, on the 12th and then some. Or if you don't want interest on it, I can just pass the good on to someone else who is in need. We've ALL been down and out. My father taught me that you aren't a coward for asking for help, you're a human. So this is my last resort. Again look my handle up on Google, I've used this handle for years now. If there's anything anyone needs to know PLEASE DM me, don't just assume. I'm already hesitant posting this but anything you need to know, get a hold of me. I hope everyone has had a good Holiday and New Year's. And I hope we've all made resolutions to be better than last year. To everyone.

Thank you, even if you just took a look at this. -Jarrett



Submitted January 04, 2018 at 12:39AM by sQQu33 http://ift.tt/2ES9HtZ Assistance

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

If anyone can help..power is getting shut off in the AM Assistance

Hey, I’m in a extremely desperate situation. I lost my job over a month ago, and thankfully, I’ve found employment! I don’t start until after the new year, and I’ve been pleading and begging my energy company to give me an extension, but they’re unwilling to work with me. I only have $45 to my name until I start work again. I know it’s a lot to ask for, but if anyone’s able to help me out so that my diabetic supplies doesn’t go bad in my refrigerator, I would be forever grateful. I plan on helping out anyway I can once I get settled in my new job through this sub reddit. Thanks if anyone is able to help. proof of electric about go get shut off



Submitted December 28, 2017 at 11:24AM by sugareeee http://ift.tt/2CfOLMA Assistance

Friday, December 1, 2017

8 months pregnant and struggling Assistance

We are due with our first son in January, and I am so excited! The past few months have been full of challenges for us, though, and I'm finding myself in a really tight spot.

I was let go from my job in August because I brought up a sexual harassment claim against a franchise owner and he chose to filed for bankruptcy and close the chapter I worked for. I have since been freelancing (digital marketing, strategy, etc) but it's hard to find long-term gigs knowing I will have to take off for maternity leave. I am planning to work up until the day I give birth if I can keep finding short-term projects. I currently use r/forhire, UpWork, InDeed, LinkedIn, and CL to look for potential openings and apply to a dozen a day, at least.

I'm writing this post because I've hit rock bottom. I have $13 in the checking account after borrowing from a friend because I over-drafted paying my electricity and internet bills (which I need to be able to work). I also have nothing left in the refrigerator (that isn't expired or expiring today) except two blocks of cheese, half a carton of orange juice, and a single container of yogurt. I'm hesitant to eat anything past its date because of the pregnancy and the complications I have had so far.

I am hoping someone will be able to help us with groceries out of the kindness of their heart. I live in NC, and the closest two grocery stores to me would be Publix or Harris Teeter (both about 10 minutes away). I don't know what the usual protocol is for something like this...but I am open to suggestions or any ideas you may have.

I have exhausted all local resources, because our income is too high to qualify for food pantry or other assistance, and due to the time of year the food pantries are all empty or have a long waiting list for access.



Submitted December 01, 2017 at 09:17PM by greeneyedgeminigirl http://ift.tt/2AvUwaJ Assistance

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Me(29),Wife(30),Kids(3,4,12,13) Are going to be homeless in a few weeks. I need advice/help/input. Assistance

To start we have zero family members.

no living parents, guardians, brothers/sisters that I know of.

we are a family of 6. drug free, alcohol free, smoke free your average cleancut family.

I think our lives began to fall apart 3 years ago. I owned and operated multiple second hand stores in northern california. I had a monthly income of around 6k. after a home invasion burglary we were left in debt, without a vehicle, and traumatized. I closed our stores and moved out to southern california within a few weeks of the incident. It wasn't ideal or smart but going through such a traumatic experience like that, and making the money we were making I had this logic:

1 we can restart our lives elsewhere. we are two capable/smart adults.

2 my familys happiness is priority #1.

your family doesn't want to live in that town or house another second, and although 2 weeks is short notice. it felt like a lifetime. They wouldn't even go to bed.

we moved to southern california and started buying/reselling out here. I had a store for a short time which was doing extremely well but unfortunately, I couldn't renew my lease as the owners were selling the building. Once it closed, I went through terrible vehicle troubles. due to all of this I was late on my rent by a week. I took out a loan to pay it after receiving a 3 day notice. I attempted to pay the amount stated on the notice but the woman in the office refused to accept payment without the manager in the office. after getting a hold of the manager, I was told the eviction process has been started. and I'm told to stop it, I'd have to pay $900 extra in fees.

I was given an unlawful detainer, and my court date is scheduled for the 3rd. I'm assuming I'm going to lose it simply because I have no evidence I tried to pay it other than the word of the office staff. and even if things go in my favor now, I'm still 2 months behind on rent. and I've got close to nothing to pay for it.

Right now our situation is this:

I estimate I have around 5-6 days after the court date to leave. I assume by that time I'll have around 2,000-2,400 in cash

our only solid source of income is a disability for my oldest child. which amounts to $800 a month. I'm confident with storage, running vehicle, and internet access I could make an additional $1000-2000 monthly.

Rent is ridiculous in southern california. My credit score is non existent. I've never had a credit card, or loan from a bank before. never qualified I've always had bad credit. I've got ridiculous medical bills that aren't mine, and other unknown bills on my report due to my biological mom selling my identity as a child. My wifes credit isn't any better. hers is bad from an ex marriage.

any rental place will require an extremely large deposit + first months rent. I estimate i'd need around $3,000 - $3,500 to rent a place in southern california. and atleast $2,500 anyplace else

My vehicle currently is a van that is not registered, insured, expired tags, has no reverse, overheats, and transmission is going out. Literally bought it for a few hundred dollars as a last resort when my vehicle died in an effort have some sort of transportation as my living revolves around transportation. I feel I can buy/resell and make a decent living as long as I have transportation. a vans not ideal, but it fit my family and would atleast let me make deliveries.

Right now the most important thing to me is keeping custody of my children.

I don't want them in a foster home. I want to be in their lives as much as possible. I grew up homeless living in a vehicle with my biological mother, and I would take that 100% of the time. I 100% feel they'd have a better life living with a mom & dad that loves them in a vehicle, than they would in foster care. The idea of not having housing scares me as I see that as a risk of having my children removed from me.

So I feel my options are as follows:

1 Find a way to buy the best SUV possible.

2k to 2,400 probably won't buy me a reliable vehicle, but I'm going to have to use it to buy the most reliable vehicle possible. currently my Minivan is small, and it's not going to last me for the reasons stated above. Frankly I don't trust it driving me more than 30 minutes away. I'm looking at getting an older Suburban or a Yukon XL. I feel like they are large enough to have us all sleep in comfortablly. I can't afford an RV, and all the ads selling those driveable RVs/Motorhomes within the 2k price range are most likely ready to fall apart. Plus i feel like if something did happen mechanically fixing a Suburban would be cheaper than fixing an RV.

I think if we had a reliable SUV, we could all sleep in I could make my $1000-$2000 monthly buying/reselling + 800 in my sons social security benefits. I'd have to pay for a larger storage, and find someplace I could have 24/7 computer access. not sure if I could setup wifi through a storage facility or turn my space into an office. I doubt it but I estimate I'm going to be spending $500-700 for storage/office. I think storage is going to cost me around $140 monthly. small offices/1 person room rentals on craigslist seem to be around $600 a month. It would be nice to find a room rental that I could use for computer access, and where I can store everything I'm selling at.

I think if we live in a vehicle that doesn't give me any mechanical issues we could potentially save around $600-1000 monthly. within half a year we should be able to afford to move somewhere and get back on our feet. the plan would be this:

Me work in the office during the day, wife and kids spend their days at parks, beaches. we meet up at night and I'll make food via camp stove or something, and we sleep in the SUV. maybe me or the wife pickup a job at night, or during different days/hours. we save atleast 600-1000 monthly.

keeping my kids would be my concern, i think i'd convince some of the people we know to let us use their address for our mail & kids schools.


Option 2. - Renting out a cheap place out of state or out of country.

Mexico has tons of cheap rentals which I'm sure I could get into. the problem I see is I'd lose my sons social security benefits, and I'd have no transportation as my van wont make it across the border. With no transportation or his social security thats ZERO income. If I managed to get a vehicle that could get me back across the border, I'd be able to convince someone we know to let us use their address for social security and possibly keep recieving that $800. but moving out of country without a vehicle seems out of the question.

Also moving to a cheaper location. Arizona, and even inland towns in california like El Centro seem affordable, and I could probably find a rental. but again I'm without a vehicle, and that would be the biggest source of my income.

It would be nice to get a rental before the eviction goes on my record. Once it's on there I assume I'm doomed and can't imagine even finding a rental even if i did have the money. I assume I have 2-3 weeks after the court date before it appears on my record but I don't think finding a rental without transportation is a good idea.

Right now I feel the best option for my family is to buy the most reliable SUV possible. i'm not against Vans, but I feel like an SUV is more bigger. I think after getting a vehicle, I'd buy/resell through a storage/office, and possibly get another job. after doing that in a few months I'd consider moving to Mexico, saving, or buying an additional smaller economic vehicle for added income. I'd use it towards Uber, lyft, fuel efficent small deliveries, and not having to drive a gas hog of a suburban around 24/7.

there are homeless shelters that are hard to get into. but they don't accommodate our entire family. regardless if my wife can get in with two children or even 3 children, we still have 1 left out, and myself. I think atleast with a vehicle we can keep our stuff in storage(so it doesn't look like we are living in a vehicle), everyone has a place to sleep, we could have friends let us use their address for our mail, and any government agency interested in knowing where we live. and pull off sleeping in our suv each night. if any cops ask, we are vacationing/camping and saving on hotels.

So heres what I need from the homeless section.....

I need advice and all the help I can get.

I know my plan isn't ideal because I have children, but I am really against losing them and keeping them together is my priority.

I think food might be a factor. I know homeless shelters provide meals, and I am now receiving food stamps as of last month.($700), I can see that going a long way. but without a refrigerator, and a kitchen. I can see us eating a lot of junk food, and blowing through that. I need to find a way to budget our food stamps and ideas on types of foods to buy while being homeless.

Gas - driving to the store each day in a larger vehicle is probably going to cost me. I need ideas on activities my family could do thats cheap. right now beaches/parks seem like the best bet, but I'm sure after a few months of doing it daily, they are going to get tired of it. I need a list of free activities or maybe cheap memberships my families could look into getting to help them pass the day without a house.

Tips on vehicle buying. - I'm not the greatest when it comes to car inspections. any useful tips that will help me avoid buying a lemon would help me dramatically.

If you have questions, or ideas let me know...

ALSO: I tried searching for a commercial retail store that was zoned for residential use, and found nothing unfortunately. that would have been a great solution to have a roof over our head and not suffer without a vehicle as the store itself would provide income.

& my wife wants to start a youtube channel documenting my familys daily life being frugal while "vacationing/camping for months" hoping to add income from youtube views/subscribers.



Submitted September 27, 2017 at 10:10PM by OceansideFlippingcom http://ift.tt/2hy78WZ Assistance

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

I wish I didn't have to come here, but I'm desperate Assistance

Yesterday my refrigerator quit working and the starter went out on my mini van, my only mode of transportation. I am broke until payday on Friday, and even then I have no idea if I'm going to be able to afford fixing my van, getting a new fridge, and still pay my bills and afford groceries. I have 3 small children, so I can't go without these necessities

I hate having to beg for help, but I don't know what else to do



Submitted July 19, 2017 at 12:47AM by MotherBearhyde http://ift.tt/2uzGGR8 Assistance

Friday, April 7, 2017

[REQUEST] Help my family please Assistance

Hi people. My whole life is destroyed now. I still can't find job cause im sentenced. But now we don't speak of this. Can you people help my family? Now we don't have refrigerator and food. Cause old refrigerator broke yesterday. We don't have any money. My mother work, but bailiff take her cash after she can take this money. She have only around 150 euro for food, live. My mother work and her paycheck is only 300 euro for a month. But bailiff take 150. I have four younger siblings. They are still learn in school. My father left me and my mom when I was 6. Two of my siblings don't have father cause this coward kill himself doing suicide. And leave my mother with debt. We need money for buy new refrigerator and some food to live. That's all. New refrigerator cost 500 euro. Food 50/60 euro for 6 of us. I beg you people. Help my family. Cause six years ago my mom try do suicide cause all of those problems. I save her. But now everything back to her. Can someone help? We live in Poland, nobody want help us. That's why I looking for help in web.



Submitted April 07, 2017 at 11:01AM by Kurajmo http://ift.tt/2nKbA20 Assistance

Monday, April 3, 2017

Hello..May I ..write this...? Assistance

Hello..May I ..write this...?

Hello... I.. really didn't like to ask for help...like this.. But now, I can't even afford to pay small transportation fee for school and part-time job.. All the debt and interest is gnawing at me. Few days ago, I was worried about eating food. But now, I'm warring about that I can't anything for eating food. Besides,Today, I walked 10 kilometers, and the boss said to me pay the money later. It couldn’t be worse. I don't know what to do. The refrigerator is empty and nobody can help me, and I have to walk 10 kilometers tomorrow for part time job. I can't even think about going to school. The worst thing is that my period will start in the next few days. Just thinking about it makes me shudder. I wish I hadn't been a woman. I hate this situation. So, I'm writing.. Can't anyone help you little? Really sorry..and thank you. I shall never forget your kindness. and I will always pray god bless you .

http://ift.tt/2oPjJDx



Submitted April 03, 2017 at 11:55AM by abs213 http://ift.tt/2n3a2os Assistance

Hello..May I ..write this...? Assistance

Hello..May I ..write this...?

Hello... I.. really didn't like to ask for help...like this.. But now, I can't even afford to pay small transportation fee for school and part-time job.. All the debt and interest is gnawing at me. Few days ago, I was worried about eating food. But now, I'm warring about that I can't anything for eating food. Besides,Today, I walked 10 kilometers, and the boss said to me pay the money later. It couldn’t be worse. I don't know what to do. The refrigerator is empty and nobody can help me, and I have to walk 10 kilometers tomorrow for part time job. I can't even think about going to school. The worst thing is that my period will start in the next few days. Just thinking about it makes me shudder. I wish I hadn't been a woman. I hate this situation. So, I'm writing.. Can't anyone help you little? Really sorry..and thank you. I shall never forget your kindness. and I will always pray god bless you .

http://ift.tt/2oPjJDx



Submitted April 03, 2017 at 11:55AM by abs213 http://ift.tt/2n3a2os Assistance

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

My wife's on going battle with Lyme disease and associated co-infections. Assistance

So, my wife got sick a little over a year ago with lyme disease. Unfortunately it took us 9 months to get a diagnosis. She also has associated co-infections such as Babesia and Bartonella and most likely a few others we are not aware of. I am a military member of 7 years active duty and whilst i do get healthcare from my service, they run off the misinformation that the CDC puts out on Lyme. During this time, I have gone roughly 30 grand in debt on credit cards and personal loans just to survive. Alot of this was spent on things such as feeding my family, tests that we had to pay for out of pocket and travel to doctors 3 hours away so that we can properly identify and treat my wife's Lyme disease. Admittedly not all that debt is from this but at the same time as my wife getting sick we were closing on a house and had to buy things for that I.E. refrigerator and washer/dryer. Currently I struggle to make sure i have enough food on the table at the end of a paycheck and have been letting some bills become overdue. I appreciate any help we receive and whilst I dont expect everyone to just open their wallets and donate, I will ask that you just atleast share this post/link.

Thank you from myself and my family.

Please feel free to contact me directly via PM with any questions or if in need of more elaboration/ information.

http://ift.tt/2cHfRDA



Submitted September 08, 2016 at 06:45AM by Trab926 http://ift.tt/2bZBhMq Assistance

Thursday, May 12, 2016

Need assistance until I get a job / apt Assistance

Hello /r/Assistance !

I am here to humbly ask for assistance to get by for the next week or so. I am currently staying at a shelter but have to leave the shelter tomorrow morning. I was given the chance to stay in a friends vehicle at night until Sunday and I am going to be taking him up on that offer. Normally, I would get assistance for public transport - SEPTA - from the shelter with a valid reason (doctor, job, lawyer ect) but as I am no longer a resident I will receive no such help. The things I need most is the ability to get around via SEPTA, getting food/water/gatorade, and getting clothes that fit me for the coming summer. I have one outfit for work interviews and it has been getting a workout! I also have one pair of gym shorts and multiple shirts to wear. My awesome brother was able to buy me some New Balance running shoes which fit great (16 Wide)! I have to get my dress shoes resoled as they are starting to talk at the bottom, this is cheaper than getting all new shoes. I do not have the luxury of a refrigerator/cabinet to store food from the local food pantry - I have tried to keep food with me and it gets too heavy to carry all day and will get taken if I leave it somewhere.

If anyone in the West Chester / Philadelphia area knows of a company that is hiring for customer service associate, CSR management, dispatch, inbound/outbound call center, sales or anything like these - please send me a PM! Thank you for all your thoughts and considerations. I do not have a cell phone at the moment as it was disconnected. I am waiting to hear from my parents to see if they will connect my flip phone on their plan. I have the ability to go to the library and check emails, Reddit, and messages. The only way for me to check these is the library as my bag with my laptop was stolen a month ago in the city. Thank you for reading and taking time to respond. Later people!

PS. I live in West Chester PA (19380) at the moment. I will "tag" this post ASAP when I figure out how to do so and I have registered today. Thanks



Submitted May 13, 2016 at 01:39AM by JBonez84 http://ift.tt/23Le8vb Assistance

Saturday, May 7, 2016

I live with my mom, want to run away and start new, no income, low-life lifestyle, and have identity theft actively going on Assistance

I'm in my 20s and live with my mother currently (PA, US). She is on SSI for health reasons.

I have little job experience (outside of my field of interest and nothing really provable either considering the companies are out of business), but believe I have the right knowledge for basic IT work. The town I'm in however doesn't really have any openings for IT-related positions as I understand (this town nor surroundings doesn't have any notable IT employers afaik), and the only means of transportation I have is a taxi and bus (me nor my mom have a vehicle).

I myself have never applied for a credit card or any loans, but I know my mother has used my name (and siblings; they're younger than 18 and not living with us currently) for various credit cards and loans. She claims she can balance transfer and etc. to pay them off, but as for how this is working out currently or will work out in the future is beyond me. On a slightly related note, companies that send random credit card offers and loans through the mail must love her...

As for our financial situation, it's livable, but certainly not due to her actions. She has no problem with running electrical appliances when they aren't needed (she would rather run multiple window air conditioners and keep a CRT TV on 24/7 instead of using central air and simply turning the TV on when-needed), and has no problem paying what I find to be a pretty significant cable bill (about $150/month for 3 TV boxes and a high channel package when she's the only one who watches the TV). I've tried offering alternate solutions to no avail (mainly internet streaming and a OTA antenna) due to her not wanting to break "tradition". She also wants to care for 5 cats (and counting), and that alone also eats into the budget for cat liter and food.

As for other means of aid, we go to multiple food banks (she demanded I create fake IDs in my name for this), and currently, in order for me to keep my welfare health insurance, she heavily insisted on me trying to "fake" mental illness and apply for SSI (I believe the welfare requirement to stay on is to just apply and to not actually get on). I'm against doing such things mainly because I believe we're not in any condition to be needing them (we have more food than we can even store in two refrigerators and all the cabinets... not to mention the other stuff she could cut down on above), and also it is pretty low-down in my opinion. But I don't believe I'm in any real position to just say no...

My mom is also on housing assistance. It's no problem for me to live with her, but I have to sign a paper annually stating I've earned no income. If I were to start working, the foodstamps my mom gets currently would be cut to virtually nothing, and I would also have to pay a large chunk of rent, which would mean very little money in my own pocket. I've been using my time unemployed to further my knowledge through self-learning, building a portfolio, and to try to learn a second language.

A large concern of mine is about the various credit cards and loans in my name. I've never signed anything for a credit card nor loan, but I can't imagine this being easy to prove (credit cards only require a SSN and don't even validate DOB nowadays it seems). I would prefer not to pay-off the cards myself, but even if I did, my mom would for sure continue to use my name with or without my explicit permission. Is there a process for just getting a new SSN in the US? Could I just leave the country and renounce citizenship? (pretty sure that's a long-shot and nowhere near as-easy as I would think to do)

I'm pretty frustrated with the entire situation. I have dreams of just running away to a new country (or at the very least, somewhere away from here in the US) and starting anew, but the difficulty of doing this scares me. I live a pretty "cozy" life currently, but I'm certain this won't last forever nor do I prefer the unethical hoops I have to jump through to maintain it. Part of me just wants to sell everything that I own (probably wouldn't net anything above $2000 assuming anyone near me would even want to pay my ideal prices), and just "go" somewhere without any real plans. I have no idea what I would do for shelter or food long-term if I did just decide to go somewhere, but I could live somewhat minimalistic (I can sleep on floors with a blanket, have no issue with taking quick showers with cold water, and would love to deal with an affordable diet consisting only of a powdered food like Soylent and water). But perhaps just running away and starting new is too drastic?

What should I do?



Submitted May 08, 2016 at 04:50AM by throwawaythe10203 http://ift.tt/1s3OgPI Assistance

Friday, February 19, 2016

Feeling bad Assistance

I just moved in my place rent s $1150 plus i gotta pay for oil,i have no funds left and we are hungry its me my 60 mom who just lost her husband and my three sons my refrigerator is so empty can anyone feed us,they had to.go.to.bed hungry



Submitted February 20, 2016 at 09:23AM by phats36 http://ift.tt/1oQXooO Assistance

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Need help getting out of an abusive situation. Assistance

Hey everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read this I know it's a bit lengthy (sorry!)

I'm posting because I need assistance. I need help getting out of an extremely abusive and toxic situation, I have copy and pasted text from a couple of posts I made about whats going on below. I don't like asking for help but I don't have any other options at this point.

General location : North Carolina.

I have set up a gofundme page and am going to include the link for that here

Post #1 Title : I think it's time to cut my family out of my life.

I have been thinking about it for a few years and I think they have finally pushed me to my limit. Some history / Backstory. I was adopted - not in the usual way either, my adoptive mother was married to my Biological father. My father had an affair and I am the product of said affair. My fathers wife at the time ( my adoptive mother) decided to adopt me when my biological mother put me up for adoption. I think she did this as a last ditch effort to keep my father around (didn't work) I have always been treated differently - favor was shown to the biological children I was a black sheep and a scapegoat. I suffered sexual and physical abuse for more than 10 years at the hands of her boyfriends and even one step brother. I kept all of that to myself because I felt like it was my fault, even to this day ( I'm 23 now) I have nightmares and weird quirks even depression and suicidal thoughts due to years of abuse. I got away and moved to Oregon for awhile, I was doing great! I had a place and a job, I wasn't depressed or suicidal (nearly as often) it still snuck up on me occasionally. I got a call a little over a year ago about my father. I was told that he was very sick and that he needed help - I had only seen my father once or twice in my life since I was 4 years old- but I still loved him because he was my father. I quit my job packed up my things and moved home to be with him. He passed away shortly after I arrived, I was planning to move back to Oregon but my Grandfather become ill and my Grandmother wasn't able to care for him, because she had fallen down and had a broken leg. I agreed to move in with them for awhile and take care of them and keep up with the house and yard work as well as grocery shopping and taking them to and from appointments. after about 4 months my grandfather passed away. None of my other family members ever offered to help me or my grandparents in any way and still to this day won't do anything to help. I have stayed after my grandfathers passing to care for my grandmother, she is mostly blind and deaf and wouldn't be able to live on her own.

the current problems start here : I have been here awhile and since moving back I have met someone and we have been dating a little over 6 months, occasionally I will go and spend time with him and this absolutely pisses my grandmother off for some reason. I get home after spending a few hours with him and every single time she has gone through my packed boxes of things and leaves nasty notes on my desk telling me that I need to get my shit and leave if I don't do things her way. She doesn't want me leaving the house, she gets pissed if I tell her I need to go out to apply for jobs she gets pissed because I don't yet have a job here other than some freelance work that I do. No matter what I'm doing if it's not all about her she hates it she threatens me and tells me I need to get the fuck out. I am so stressed out and depressed I have thoughts of suicide on a daily basis. The fact is she can't live alone she would die she leaves the oven and stove on she tries to eat food that has been in the refrigerator for like 2 years and has expired. Nobody will help me with her, They won't come over and sit with her while I try to find work they constantly talk about me and how shitty I am, how ugly I am, how stupid I am, that Im not worth anything because I don't have a job. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to leave my grandmother alone, but the constant fear of being kicked out and ending up homeless and stuck here with nothing is just way too much stress. I should add that I did have savings when I moved here, more than enough to support myself for at least a year without work and maybe to take care of an emergency if one were to arise it was cash saving that I had tucked away in the room I am using here at my grandmothers. My sister and her boyfriend stole it along with some electronics and other valuables while I was gone for a day. So now I have nothing and nowhere to go. I don't know what to do. TLDR: family is abusing me emotionally to the point I think about killing myself daily. I don't know if I should just leave, cut all contact and try to rebuild my life or stick around and help them in their time of need.

Post #2 Title: I think I might kill myself tonight.

I'm exhausted and I just can't pretend I'm okay anymore. I have thought about killing myself everyday for years and every time I had these thoughts I would cry because I didn't really want to die, but tonight I didn't cry because I'm ready now. Edit: Thanks for all of the kind and uplifting replies, I wanted to reply / update this just so nobody thinks I'm dead. I have a wonderful boyfriend that saw my post and helped me get through the night and spent the day with me to make sure I was okay. I am fine and thank you all so much for being so kind.

Again, Thank you for taking the time to read this.



Submitted January 27, 2016 at 11:18PM by DarthEnigma http://ift.tt/1KFA8P0 Assistance

Thursday, December 10, 2015

My family of 4 needs a little help Assistance

Hi. My husband has some health issues that are keeping him from being able to work so we are really struggling right now just to keep the utilities on and food on the table. We can't afford to pay for oil for heating the house, so we are using two space heaters and only staying in pretty much one room so we can keep warm. Having two teenagers in one room longer than a couple of hours always gets interesting! ;) LOL

I have a wishlist with some food items and some blankets and two heaters (I wasn't sure which one would be best). If I need to change anything, please let me know. I've heard that infrared heaters do very well with large areas, so I tried to find a heater that will heat a large room and didn't cost a fortune.

Right now, food is the most important. My refrigerator just went out and I had to throw out almost everything. We don't have any meat at all, so I'm not sure what we'll do for dinner tonight and tomorrow.

Here is the wishlist. Anything that you can do would be wonderful!

Merry Christmas!



Submitted December 11, 2015 at 01:33AM by uscgirl http://ift.tt/1M5CZ33 Assistance

Friday, December 4, 2015

Refrigerator crapped out on me Assistance

So two days ago (December 2nd), my refrigerator was working fine. Then I wake up yesterday morning, and it wasn't as cold as it was supposed to be. Called the maintenance people (I live in an apartment), they cleaned the coils underneath, but due to the fact that the electric company shut the power off to upgrade the meter (and didn't turn it back on), my refrigerator ended up going without power for approximately 5 hours. After giving it sufficient enough time to attempt to cool down, I checked and still not working.

So now nearly all my food is spoiled. I had one of those big packages of chicken from Costco (as well as a few pounds of hamburger also from Costco) that is no longer safe to eat, milk went bad, even leftovers ended up going bad.

Right now, I have a stack of crackers, a box or two of pasta, and some cereal. All to feed three people until we get paid next week. On top of this, I have renters insurance but that doesn't cover food loss, just property loss.

If anyone could spare some change so I could at least get the essentials back once they fix the fridge (they're supposed to come today), that would be helpful.

I live in Arizona.



Submitted December 04, 2015 at 11:31PM by jdcnosse http://ift.tt/1PFeBwT Assistance

Monday, September 21, 2015

Friend with cancer being forced to move, please help Assistance

My friends Dan and Liz have been battling cancer these last few years, doing the best to take care of each other and their kids. Recently the apartment building they have lived in for 18 years was sold, with the new owner wanting to raise their rent by 60%. They cannot afford this and have found a new place to reside. However this new place is missing some amenities (like appliances). Some friends of Dan and Liz are rallying around to help where we can (physically moving their stuff, as he cannot do what he used to, due to chemo), but we need to get them a stove and refrigerator along with other amenities. Can the community here give him a hand? Another friend of his set up a gofundme to get the money together to help them out, any help is appreciated! They live in the Tacoma'ish area in WA if any other helpers want to help them move, they have to be out in about a month's time.

Gofundme



Submitted September 21, 2015 at 07:56PM by khainesylph http://ift.tt/1FaYB1y Assistance

Monday, September 14, 2015

Out of food and cash. Looking for some assistance. Assistance

Hi.

A bit of information about: I am college student living out of the country. I am on financial aid and the funds for this semester have been delayed on three occasions. The two Thursdays past and this Sunday, yesterday. Family have been unable to pitch in to help and I am my close friends quite a bit to ask for more. This is quite the dilemma as you can see as the funds won't be transferred to my bank account until Thursday. So, I have to last two full days, not including today, with about 6 cents to my name and an empty refrigerator. I wish there were available food banks or similar charity groups on campus, but there just aren't. Plus, I've tried similar sub-reddits like /r/Borrow and /r/RandomActsofKindness to no avail. You're my last shot /r/Assistance.

I live in Qatar for some time now. Any extra information can be provided at request.

Any assistance would be extremely appreciated and thanks for reading.



Submitted September 14, 2015 at 05:42PM by InsufferableCush http://ift.tt/1Y34XGm Assistance

Saturday, September 5, 2015

[Advice] LG refrigerator cooling problems Assistance

We bought a LG LFX28978ST back in 2011 and today we noticed that the fridge and freezer both stopped cooling. We unplugged and cleaned the dust in the back but it still isn't working. When plugged in, the air is slightly cooler than room temperature but not by much.

Called LG customer service and they said the warranty is for 1 yr but certain parts are up to 7 yrs. They suggested I go to an authorized dealer to analyze the problem first. LG might send the faulty part (if it's under warranty) but we have to pay for the labor of the initial analysis and then for the installation when the part arrives. I'm not sure how long/much it will cost in the end, if it's worth it or if it's cheaper to just get a new fridge? Please advise on what to do!



Submitted September 06, 2015 at 06:52AM by sealedtoyou http://ift.tt/1i4KnVM Assistance

Friday, September 4, 2015

Stranded in Lexington, VA. Need to get back to [a city in central VA] to care for chair-bound SO. Assistance

Greyhounded to [a city in south west Virginia] today to pick up a new used car and take it back home. Should have taken about 8 hours, but after about 30 miles on the interstate it began to overheat. I pulled over to let it cool down, but now it won't start. Not sure why. Everything's legal (title, tags, insurance), and State Police say I have 24 hours to get it moved.

But that's the least of the issues. The biggest one is my SO. She is chair-bound for the most part, and very much dependent on me for most of her basic needs. She needs both hip joints and both knee joints replaced, and is in near constant pain until that happens. This means that she can't get out to the refrigerator to get food but maybe once per day.

We've been getting by with me stocking her with edibles and supplies if I need to spend any significant time out (up to 12 hours). Now I am stranded 100+ miles away.

I need a way to get back to her first and foremost. Second, I need a way to get my car towed. The only two places I have been able to find wanted between $225 and $300 just to tow it 10 miles or so - money I don't have on me. And things are closed up for the weekend around here. Still looking, but prospects are dim.

Any assistance will be appreciated. A car with a tow dolly that I could rent would be ideal.



Submitted September 05, 2015 at 04:53AM by Snark_Jones http://ift.tt/1UxQc9Z Assistance

Sunday, August 30, 2015

Powee outage ruined our perishables. One income family and need money for food. Assistance

Edit spelling in title... power

The power in the Pacific northwest has been out 24 hours for thousands of people. Our power is still out and current estimates are 2-3 days. All our perishables in our refrigerator and freezer that we just bought need to be tossed. We don't have a propane stove to cook so we are eating crackers right now. We have a 9 month old baby girl and are a single income family. We don't have enough emergency funds saved up yet to cover groceries. Food bank is open tomorrow but there are so many people without power right now that I think their stores are going to be wiped out pretty quick. Asking for a little financial assistance to get some groceries for our family for the week. Hopefully the power will come back on soon. :(



Submitted August 30, 2015 at 11:27PM by stickfiguredrawings http://ift.tt/1KVyYOL Assistance