I've lived with other roommates before. This is the worst roommate experience I've ever had.
In a house filled with 11 boys, the landlady decided to bring in a single girl. I dont have any problem with that in itself, just that the many women she did bring to see the house before did not end up taking the house for whatever reason(s). She then started talking to a person who had not seen the house because they were a temporary exchange student who then agreed to take the house ( all this happened solely via email ).
The first few days were enough for things to start unraveling.
I was in the bathroom in the morning and was on my way to start my day, she knocked after a while. I told her I'd be out soon. As soon as I got out she told me in a very stern fashion that if I was to use the bathroom for this long I should be done by 8 AM. Previously, when I had lived with other people, we would have basic human decency to actually let the other person finish and only until it was badly urgent would we go as far as knocking. I cant believe I actually have to mention this, this is common sense. I had not seen this sort of entitlement in my life. I apologised (even though I did not need to ) and told her I had woken up a bit late today (again, I pay equal rent as her so I have zero reason to let someone else decide when I can use a resource in the house as long as it is free and I'm not actually not getting in anyone's way). So she went in and used the bathroom, again, this incident is so stupid I literally am facepalming myself having to mention these details myself, she went in and was done in like 5 mins (that means she did not shower nor shit, so I have no idea why she needed to fight me when I actually had class to go to). She did not have any classes (even though she told me she did in the midst of the talking down she gave me) nor any urgency, so I pondered why the reason for the huge fight?
So a few other guys live with me here on this floor along with her. From the beginning, I had sort of already gotten the idea how things would go if god forbid I actually got into a fight with her and said something back, this was proven true later. After the bathroom incident, one of the guy roommates made it a habit to always come in and knock on my door when I'm in the toilet. This was embarrasing because he would take longer in the toilet when he would be there, plus I also found out that she may be telling strange things to him and complaining about me. The guy himself, super brilliant would jump to the first conclusion and pounce on me. So this was a red flag, that meant no matter what the nature of my conversations would be with her, she would always be filling his ears and he would come after me with the fury of a thousand suns.
I sort of got the idea that this person likes acting like this and having lived with shitty roommmates before, I decided to keep my distance from her from then on.
Please note we had no real official reason to talk, period. The bills are split with another roommate and I pretty much keep to myself. This would hopefully be the end of it (I would want it to) but sadly it did not end there. Me living my life without getting in their way was not enough for them. They sort of got the wind that I was avoiding them.
I dont know why, but she started becoming more aggressive after this. I was making breakfast one day and she started prodding me if I had classes or not. Normally I dont mind talking about my day to day, but the way she was asking almost suggested that she was trying to extract some sort of negative meaning about it. Well later on I did find out, I dont know if this is because she's an exchange student, but she literally has a lesser load than the other students. Not only that, she does not have classes more often than not and spends most weekends partying and I actually caught her lounging about on campus in a timeslot when she would leave the house usually (not that I care, just that if you are going around trying to gauge how much other people are doing, one would expect that you must be doing something so fruitful to society in the first place because you must be super busy yourself, not if the most important tasks of your day are gossiping and laundry)
I tried not to say much to her because I knew it would only create problems for me and I already had a lot on my hands (engg major).
The bathroom is literally shit, no there is a literal shitstain on the side of the toilet that nobody cleaned up. The guys I live with, however they are, are pretty disciplined, so they would clean their messes. This is someone who would do it, maybe even try to blame me afterwards. Our shower got clogged recently, pretty sure she went around telling everyone I did it. Just that if anyone had noticed in my house that the shower drain got clogged due to excess hair being stuck in it. How do I know? Because the drain actually overflowed during this and all the clogged hair came up. It was gross, but the real reason became apparent. I thought the other people in the house would catch on and stop blaming me, but it seems it was not the case. That only happens if you have long hair and shed a lot of it. There's literally only one person like that in the house. My landlady does not care.
The lack of attention she was getting made her more spuriously try and do something to get some reaction out of me. My room is outside the kitchen, next to the pantry, so she would stand in front of it and listen in. Not that I care, it's your day you throw away, just that she would play music. I dont care about that either, light music is fine and even good when you cook, doesn't matter to me if you it all day but it's fine. Problem is, this happened right before a major exam.
The library is pretty noisy, I find my room to be an okay place to study and work from. When they get a hint I'm working on something, they would come in and start playing music very loudly. I literally had to make a video because it was that abysmal.
Now, I dont care if you dont have any coursework or if a few papers is all you ever need to write. I dont give a shit if partying is an everyday occurance for you, I DO NOT give a flying fuck that you dont give two shits about your studies, just please dont try and get in the way of mine.
The first incident sort of introduced the pattern, she wanted people to do the exact same things she was doing or not do it at all.
She's not shitting in the morning? She shit's in the afternoon or does not shit at all and farts around everywhere? EVERYONE in the house must follow it or at least I must do so. She's not studying? NOBODY in the house should study (This one I actually find disgusting, Linda if you're reading this, you're a terrible excuse for a human being and a waste of space, Fuck You).
For the first problem, I found out that the only way to deal with her was to keep distance from whatever shit she would try and start, so I actually waited really late or went really early until everyone was done using the bathroom. It took only a few days for her schedule to break. I went as I pleased from there onwards. She does not know adjustment, so I tried it and it worked, sadly she's taken it as a sign of weakness and intensified her antics (well I believe that this is due to her not having enough to do).
Well for the second one? I dont quite know what to do. Finals are coming up soon and there is quite a load around. My roommate, I dont know how manages parties almost everyday in the house. Look I know you dont have any real courses to worry about, but I do, also what the hell is wrong with you, why not just do something productive or if you have to do all of this, keep it out of the house at least so you dont stop other people from actually doing something worthwhile?
I cant go to the library, everywhere else is too noisy. I have all my books and things in my room. I'm used to working here. Talking to her is not an option, she's rude and impolite. Like hell she would stop anyone from getting her next high.
I lived with Engg majors before and they were pretty busy people, they threw a party but, only at the end of the semester. I mean as a college student, even a senior at that, how do you throw parties almost everyday? I know engineering students who throw parties but they do only on weekends or on holidays. It would be impossible with the amount of work they have to party everyday.
She also lacks common sense, as you know winter has started and people are wearing jackets outside, trying to keep doors and windows closed to keep the cold out. She goes around opening windows because she wants 'fresh air'. Lady, you want fresh air in this weather? Go outside and take a walk, dont open windows. The guy I told you about? Listening to this he would often open the windows of the house. It would be so cold outside that opening the window just a crack would cause the house to become a natural refrigerator. I would go around and close all the windows because it was making me and others (the same guy who would open windows, I think that is why he stopped doing it) sick in the house (if you crack open the window in this weather and leave it open overnight, you're exposed to a bad sort of cold).
This is from the recent parties she threw. These days she has escalated to bringing her friends in and being really loud.
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One grace is that I live on the opposite end of the house from her. She lives on the other side. There is a common area infront of her room with a TV and many sofa's. There's a small dining table set infront of the bathroom (near my end of the room) which she treats as a common area and sits there even though a huge personal common area exists for her on the other side of the house, I dont care but if she's being this disruptive then she should probably be on the other side of the house. This is also close to my room and very bad when she throws parties (also making all of her friends sitting on that table facing the toilet staring at shit). They have comfortable sofa's on the other side of the house, I dont get why that cannot be used.
Apart from this there is literally so much fatty has done, including, talking about me really loudly outside my room, badmouthing me, spreading rumors and even throwing away the sponge I had kept on the sink counter, all of it is unprovoked by me in any way. Hell, I even take phone calls inside my room so that people dont have complaints.
I did not want to write this lenghty post, this piece of shit person deserves a lot less, I have zero idea on how to approach this. I literally had to take videos. There is a limit to stuff. You want to party? Go to a pub.
Nowadays, she is trying to fuck around outside my room. I dont even want to be associated with her, I dont get what is it she wants. This person sucks. Her friends are inconsiderate, if I would go to someone else's house, I would respect their wishes and would not be a burden on them at least. I'm sick and tired of this, her friends are here right now and for a better word stil being fucking cunts. I think they're also taking drugs. They're all acting up in weird ways. Fatty Just came in and called the other guy roommate, "Hey X get out of the bathroom, I need to pee!" and then suddenly rushed into the kitchen and I kid you not started stuffing her face with copious amounts of the leftover food she had from her party. I think she was crying at some point.
I've literally not said a word to her. As I said, I've lived with problematic roommates before, so I know that the worst thing you can do to escalate whatever shit they want to do is not engage with them. I also think she might be slightly crazy.
Submitted November 12, 2017 at 09:32AM by my_roommate_d_fatty http://ift.tt/2zQYjPF Advice
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