Me (19M), fed up with older brother (21M) not caring about anyone but himself. relationships

My older brother has Aspergers and is 2 years older than me. We still live together with our younger siblings and parents since neither of us ended up living on campus. My brother bought a LOCK and DEADBOLT for his bedroom door out of paranoia and selfishness. He has a survival bunker's worth of food in his room, from canned stuff to snacks and drinks that he knows I and my siblings would eat if they were in the pantry, where they should be.

Since he has not yet bought a mini fridge, he also uses up 75% of the freezer and a couple shelves of the refrigerator with "HIS" stuff that have giant labels. The sheer amount of arrogance and selfishness I see in this is just astounding. He has no consideration for anybody but himself. If it doesn't benefit him, he won't do it, including giving someone a ride, cleaning up the house, or hell, even cooking for everyone. It's always a matter of, "what's in it for him".

He's an uncaring slob. He leaves crumbs, dishes, food stains, grease and unwashed pans everywhere before leaving or going back into his room. He refuses to wash a single dish or wipe something up. In the past 6 years of living where we've lived, he only cleaned up one mess. Furthermore, he will go out of his way to eat everyone else's stuff before tapping into his own reserves.

I still look up to him and he's helped me with some things and been there as a friend since I haven't had any since high school, but this is driving me to my wit's end. There is no excuse for not sharing food and cleaning up after oneself. It's outrageous and I've never heard of this sort of behavior anywhere. This isn't an office where you have to label your food, it's a damn house. How would anyone even begin to make things normal in our house?

TL,DR My older brother has Aspergers and doesn't care about anyone or anything if it doesn't somehow benefit him. He just takes from others and refuses to help anybody. He doesn't clean up after himself or share food, even when others are hungry. How can my family and I get some semblance of normalcy back in our household?

Submitted October 09, 2017 at 03:20AM by SoulofEmber http://ift.tt/2g173uo relationships