Would you divorce? Marriage

37 yr old male married to a 32 yr old female for 7 years, no kids.

It's always been very turbulent, we don't really connect well or see eye to eye often. Her mothers side of the family has always been a little eccentric and odd. Her mother has become delusional in the past 5 years, she is diagnosed as being delusional, bi-polar and obsessive compulsive. You wouldn't believe how destructive these mental illnesses are, they completely destroy whole families. This is my first experience with it and I was amazed at how bad and completely unmanageable things get.

I suspect my wife has some of these mental illness issues lingering inside of her, so do friends of mine and my brother. My wife will go against me on subjects that we are in complete alignment with in private, once in public she will go a completely different direction than what we were once in complete agreement on. When she goes against me on issues like this, in public, it causes me to have no other option but to cause a fight in public on an issue that we were in complete agreement on just an hour before.

I set up a meeting with a divorce attorney last week but she texted me a picture of a suicide note prior to the meeting. I called 911 and the cops wanted my to commit her. I refused to show them the suicide note and they left. We have decided to reconcile but it only descended into another fight and know we are separated again.

She drinks a box of wine every 3-4 days and smokes a pack a day. She has a job. She interviews people via Skype for various position, works for a 3rd party HR company. She works 20-25 hours a week, makes enough to pay for her wine, cigarette and subscription beauty products.

She probably spends 25-30 hours a week laying in bed watching netflix. then 2 hours a day standing outside smoking cigarettes while staring at her iphone. Basically its from the bed, to the front porch to smoke, to the refrigerator to get more wine, then back to the bed.... all day

2 years ago she was laying on a heating blanket and it gave her this huge grayish bruise all ofer her lower back. It was frightening. Her sister saw once and was like, OMG WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED TO YOU!! I looked at her and, yeah, that's from watching Netflix all day while laying on a heating pad!

I've been reaching out to family about this now and thought I'd get an opinion here too.

All the best

Submitted November 10, 2016 at 10:34PM by 53791263 https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/5c8xjb/would_you_divorce/?ref=search_posts&utm_source=ifttt Marriage