I been friends with a girl for like 4 years. We have had our ups and downs. I'm a mellow dude just like being at home chillin.. I have lots of acquaintances but only couple real friends. I would consider her a real friend. She likes to go out to bars make with guys and if its feels right will progress from there. Some people like that others don't. I don't really care each their own. Anyways she end up pregnant by some dude who doesn't want to be there for her. She was just jumping from place to place not actually having a home. So she asked if she could stay couple months with me. At first I didn't like the idea. But she promised she would pull her own weight so I was like cool. I live on my own so having her around wasn't a big deal. She cleaned up after herself and for most part left me alone. If she went out she never brought anyone over or disrespected my house in any way. Here is the kicker... So we argue badly at least once a month she would break shit in her room. My stuff and hers. I got mad and told her that shit isn't cool. Dont be breaking shit if it doesn't belong to you... She got pissed I told her if she didn't like that there's the door. She left for a bit then came back week later. Month passes by and again argue this time she breaks the dash board to my car touch screen and lots of badges broken in half. Cost me like 300 bucks in total since I did all the work myself. I dropped her off and didn't even look her in the eye... She came back like 2 weeks later. You can really tell she is pregnant.. This whole time she never bothered to search for job. She does random things around house which I appreciate but I want her to be self sufficient. Any time I tell her to go look for job she gets mad and say I'm throwing shit in her face. So tonight we get into another argument and she pushes me while I'm washing dishes i tell her to leave me alone and stop talking to me. I don't want to hear her voice she pushes me again and I tell to stop doing that shit. She pushes me and I tell her she is being a fucking bitch and she hits me knocking my glasses off. I've never hit a women and I've never ever wanted to hit them. Her hits do not hurt me but I tell her to call someone to pick her up because I want her out. So she is pregnant scheduled to have her baby July 20 . The only reason she ever went to doctors was because I forced her to go and she still smokes a cigarrete ever other day and still drinks. She tries to hide her pregnancy from people including her boyfriend .. Not my problem but she clearly looks pregnant and she thinks her man doesn't know. Maybe. Any ways she is about to pop and I feel fucking guilty. I feel things will escalate and I need to nip in the bud. Am I wrong?? Should I tell her to come back? Why do I feel guilty? I love her to death but this shit ain't healthy. I don't know.. Any advice is helpful.
EDIT-- added info
Need to know info--
the guy that got her pregnant was low life who took off
according to her she was abused when she was younger
her current boyfriend supposedly doesn't know she is pregnant although you can clearly tell
---UPDATE--
So while i was away from home she called and asked if she could get her stuff i said ok. I was busy so my sister in law let her in. My sister in law assumed all the stuff she was taking was hers. When i get back home my bed is missing and all the food in the refrigerator is gone too. Even took my favorite cereal. in total about 100 dollars in food since i bought it like 3 days ago.. also laundry detergent. Thankfully she left my computer here and other electronics. Im not even mad i came home and was amused. Any guilt that i felt about kicking her out is gone now. I wish her the best in all her endeavors. I sent her a last text saying if she would of asked for the bed i would of let her have it, and the food she could of at least left my favorite cereal. Wouldnt do much good since she took milk. Lesson learned. Thank you all for your kind answers and for all your help.
Submitted July 11, 2016 at 12:34PM by esemibiscuit http://ift.tt/29Hi9B2 Advice
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