My partner Evan and I have been together for 4 years, about 2 years ago we moved in with his grandmother, Anne (Who was his primary caregiver). We moved in for a variety of reasons, she claimed she was minutes away from death and needed help with errands and whatnot. We were also having a hard time financially and her house was within a good driving distance of jobs/schools when we were previously living 45 minutes away from everything.
Evan warned me that she was needy, passive aggressive, and annoying but gave me tips on how to stay on her good side. We helped her quit smoking, fixed a few things that were wrong with her house (Insulation, duct work, leaky pipes, leaky shower that resulted in an entire bathroom remodel) we do the grocery shopping and contribute to household expenses. She is not grateful or thankful for any of this, and often berates Evan for offering to fix things or for just fixing them (and paying for it ourselves).
Our relationship with her is not good right now, she has become completely over-bearing. She needs to know every detail of our lives, our bank account, she won't even let me cook without taking over! She's gotten very aggressive, she hides my food from me, she steals from us, she claims that we steal from her (we don't), she claims our stuff as hers (Pots, pans, tape dispensers(?), staplers, tupperware, anything you can think of). Everything that Evan has told me to do isn't working anymore (Hanging out with her, listening to her talk about bullshit for hours, ignoring the nasty things she says to me yadda yadda). She's pretty much an awful person to live with at this point.
So, before she got all mean, about a year and a half ago Evan and I wanted to get a pet house rabbit. We asked her if that was okay, since it's her house. She said it was perfectly fine as long as we cleaned up after it. We got our first rabbit, Anne loved her, they hung out and watched tv together when we weren't home. We got an unusually social and well behaved rabbit. She loves people, she gives kissed, she lets you pet her forever.
Three months later we got another rabbit who is much more of a typical rabbit. He's not very social, he's scared, he likes to be left alone, but he's super sweet when he wants to be. Our rabbits get along perfectly and are desexed so no baby bunnies.
When we got our first rabbit Anne would ask if she could give her treats (Grapes, carrots, lettuce, parsley, and whatnot). She would ask every time she gave the rabbit a treat, which was good because they have delicate stomachs. We would say "yes just one" or "no she's already had this and that today" We eventually gave her a bag of rabbit friendly treats to give out once a day but the whole bag was gone in two days.
We put a list of rabbit OK veggies on the fridge after we caught her giving her crackers. We didn't replenish the bag of treats because it was high in sugar and not good for her to eat 20 of them in a day.
We asked her to always let us know what and how much of something she's given the rabbits because it's important to know what causes their stomachs to be upset, and we let her know that rabbits WILL die if they don't eat or poop for 24-48 hours.
When we got our boy bunny she stopped asking about treats, we just assumed that she had lost interest in the rabbits. Two months ago we caught her giving the rabbits some celery, celery that has been in the refrigerator for months, was slimy and stank (She doesn't let us throw away expired food). She denied giving them celery till she was red in the face. Even though they were still eating it when we got home and we could smell it!
Both of them stopped eating for the rest of the day so we had to take them to the ER vet first thing in the morning, 16 hours after the celery incident. She did not feel like she was at fault, she was not apologetic, and she did not have ANY remorse.
After this we told her DO NOT feed the rabbits ANYTHING. We couldn't trust her to tell us the truth about what she is feeding them anymore.
Recently, in the last month she has been complaining frequently about there being rabbits hair everywhere and hay everywhere. I vacuum the living room every night and the furniture once a week.
Both of our rabbits have been having mild digestive issues frequently in the past month. They'll get gas, they will stop eating and be uncomfortable for a few hours. Evan caught her hitting one of the rabbits a week ago. We stopped letting them go into the living room after this.
She complained that she missed the rabbits being in the living room so yesterday we let them out. I had work and school that day, Evan had school that day too. We decided to let them out so they didn't have to be cooped up in our hot bedroom all day.
When I got home, our boy bunny was showing signs of tummy issues AGAIN. He wouldn't move, he wouldn't respond to treats, his stomach was bloated. The only rabbit friendly food we have in the house right now is cabbage, I have told her not to give the rabbits cabbage because in the past our boy bunny has had issues with it. I asked her if she gave them anything, she said no. I'm pretty sure she is lying. He ended up being fine in the morning, he's still not feeling it but he's eating and pooping a little bit.
So here's the thing, I don't know what to do now. We have been actively searching for a place to move for the past three months, everything that is in our budget and accepts rabbits doesn't have any apartments available. We can keep the rabbits in our bedroom from here on, but our door does not have a lock and we can't put one on the door since it is her house and she will have a HUGE fit about it. I also do not have any family that will put us up.
We know she goes into our bedroom and steals stuff from us when we are gone.
Evan says at this point, he wouldn't put it past her to hurt the rabbits or kill them.
If she is really looking to hurt our pets she will. And I really feel like she is, she doesn't like us very much anymore. I feel like this is her way of "getting even" for the stuff she thinks we do (but don't). Am I being overly paranoid?
So my question is, how can I keep my pets safe while we are living here? How can we have a successful conversation with her about the rabbits when she won't admit that she is doing anything wrong?
TL;DR: We live with Grandma, we made sure it was okay with her to get rabbits, it was. She feeds them rotten foods, foods I've told her that caused issues for the rabbits previously. She complains about them frequently and has hit them before. She won't admit to any of this. How do I keep them safe while we are living here?
Submitted June 08, 2016 at 04:39AM by GrannyBunnyKiller http://ift.tt/1WDUOkq relationships
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