We have been together for 3 years. Exclusive for the past year. I am married but my husband knows we will be getting divorced. My husband has been accused of murdering his mother (another long story) so until that issue has been resolved I am waiting to file. My current SO has been 'friends' with this woman, we will call her Beth for many years before i met him. She was actually there when we met but i did not see her. He never mentioned his friend beth, until a week before she was moving out of state, that was almost three years ago. He pursued me knowing fully my status. I have never lived with my spouse and only married him so he could retire and have health insurance. We had been romantically involved but are not any longer, I rarely see him.
Last time my SO was sexually involved with beth was much more recent. He says that is way in the past. They where friends before anything romantic happened. Beth lives out of state with her mom and step dad. She has a job as a nurse, her father lives here and she has friends here. I don't have any problem with my SO visiting with beth or her staying a night, i would come over and hang out. He wants her to stay all week at his place, he does have a spare room, but he also works from home.
I have a real issue with this her staying a week at his place and my SO has no idea why. He thinks i'm being jealous and immature buy saying this is an issue for me. Beth is ok, not someone i would be friends with, she just has different views then me. He defends her and says she supports our relationship and if it was not for her we would not be together. The other part of this story is he never talks about beth except when its time for her to visit or them to go to myrtle beach. I was under the impression he was going to stop spending a week of vacation with her but i have been corrected. He will not talk bring up beth and i never know when she is expected until about 7 days before the visit or him leaving to myrtle beach. Although the last few times she has visited he made a major purchase prior to the visit. new counter tops, new dishwasher and stove, new refrigerator, he fancies himself a good cook and he is.
She can afford a hotel room. She has friends and family here there is no reason for her to stay a week at his place. I know he is planning to go to myrtle beach again in September but will not discuss that with me either. Last time he brought it up he asked if i would go too. I'm not into be the third wheel. I am by no means week willed simpering female. I want to talk about this but he refuses to hear anything but an apology for being mad and a carte blanch to have beth there. Any advise?
TL; DR SO wants 'friend' he has been romantically involved with to stay at his place for a week. I trust him, but I feel this is disrespectful to me. If she was really his friend she would not even ask this. I have no issues with him hanging out while she is in town or her spending A night. And he works from home.
Submitted March 19, 2015 at 02:17AM by toold4thisbs http://ift.tt/1LvPpXK relationships
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