And I'm talking full on, won't speak to me, irrational type angry.
We've been together for just about 8 years, and we have been married for just over 3 of them. I know I'm not a saint, I know that I have done and will do things that make her mad. I just don't see it in certain situations like this. Maybe typing it out and getting others opinions will help.
I'll give some back story on the weekend because I believe that it will help you in understanding my situation.
Friday night I had planned a date night of sorts for us (she has bronchitis, so I'm limited on what I can do...) she has been wanting to see the holiday lights at a spot near us, so I planned on taking her there to see the lights with the dogs (we have two dogs that I fear she may actually love more than me) because I knew she would enjoy it. We packed the car up, went and saw the lights, got some to go food and came home,. She was exhausted from her day and being sick, so she fell asleep on the couch at like 8:30 PM.
Saturday we wake up and I make us breakfast as per usual. We do some light cleaning around the house and then run a few errands. We then go over to her mothers house to help her unpack (she recently lost her home while declaring bankruptcy) and as her mother isn't married I'm doing heavy lifting and putting the doors back on refrigerators and stuff like that. I spend most of my day helping them out at the new house, and not getting to do things I want to do. I had to ask my brother to come down and bring his truck so we could take a chair my wife wanted back to our house as her mother was going to throw it out.
While driving with my brother he asked if we could give him and his girlfriend a ride to the airport the next day. I tell him I'll check with my wife but I think we should be able to. I ask Christine, and she knows that the time they need to be picked up is right in the middle of a football game I really want to watch, so she volunteers to pick him up alone so that I can watch the game because she "owes" me for helping her mom.
Flash forward to Sunday. I tell her that if the game isn't close I will go with her to pick them up. She says okay. We get to my parents house to watch the game, the game is close, so I ask her if she is okay with me staying. She says that she is, and doesn't seem upset at all, so I stay. Once she gets to my brother's house, the angry texts begin about how I owe her, and how it's very inconvenient for her to come back to my parents and get me and the dogs. So I get my mother to drive me and the dogs home so my wife doesn't have to come back and get us.
She gets home, and she is steaming mad. She hands me her phone because her dad had called (we are taking a trip in a few days to see him) and she was too angry to talk to him. She then sees that I haven't fed the dogs yet and begins to berate me about how I'm a horrible dog owner and they would die in my care (not joking whatsoever) and how she honked for me to open the garage (I had left the garage door opener at my brothers, which she knew and was supposed to get when so went to pick them up) and is angry because I didn't hear the honk (I was in the back part of the house doing laundry and couldn't hear the honk over the washer/dryer and the TV I had on) and says that I was too busy to get off my "lazy ass" to open the garage door for her.
She has not said one thing to me without me initiating contact since Sunday about 5 PM when she got home. This isn't the first time something like this has happened. I realize she is sick (and on her period) but I cannot take being treated like this. I don't think I have done anything that wrong. I literally cried in my bed (she slept on the opposite side of the bed as far from me as she could get) and looked up information on marriage counselors til about 4 AM this morning. I'm the type of person where if I'm upset I get physically ill and cannot sleep or eat. Many times I wind up vomiting. My emotions are tied in to how my body feels. It's pretty strange.
Did I do something that egregious that I deserve this treatment? I know this is just a window into our lives and this probably runs much deeper than I let on, but I'm a man who doesn't know.
Submitted December 22, 2014 at 08:33PM by goku2057 http://ift.tt/1E2F1TN Marriage
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