My 2 sisters, who have become specialists in nutrition and fitness, nonstop monitor my food intake and body size. This has been occurring for the past 16 years when they first realized I was becoming "fat." The sisters became furious about my physical appearance and they said no one would talk to me because i was "weird" and also because of my weight, clothing, body type, unintelligence, poor social skills, and appearance. The 2 sisters are extremely close and leave me out of everything and have both been very verbally abusive. They are especially critical of my weight and how often i ate and what specific food and if i eat too much.
My 2 sisters are extremely obsessive about nutrition. My oldest sister has a PhD in human nutrition and my middle sister has a masters in kinesiology (they are also both obsessed with fitness) and then she went to a special program so she could become a registered dietitian because she is obsessive about nutrition. On a daily basis for the past 16 years (since they became obsessed with food) they called me fat constantly and restricted the food i ate. At age 9, they began to obsessively monitor and criticize EVERYTHING i ate ALL DAY LONG. If i ever eat in front of them, they stare at me while I eat and ask how many calories are in the meal, if it is EXACTLY 1 serving, ask "if i really need to eat," and say that when i'm done i'm forbidden to eat anything for ___ more hours. Since age 9, they would then force me to step on the scale and then take body measurements. At age 23, I'm 5ft 6 and weight 115 and they still obsessively monitor what I eat and it still makes them FURIOUS. Until age 11, they constantly criticized my weight. After age 11, I began to become very thin because of their constant control of what I ate and I haven't been overweight since then. They still closely monitor my weight even though other people say i look very thin.
They often criticize me for not being able to talk to ppl effectively. When they come over, I often can't have a conversation with them because 90% of their conversations consist of talking about food and exercise. It has seriously taken over their whole lives.
If i'm with my middle sister (who is 29 and the dietitian) and there is food, she becomes FURIOUS if I take too much. She yells at me in front of the whole family for eating. This has been going on for 13-14 years. However, she never criticizes what my mom or our other sister eats even when they weigh more than I do.
If i eat in front of my middle sister she will be very specific in criticizing the food i selected. She will tell me to measure out the food i'm eating and if the portion size is too much she becomes furious. Then the entire time she watches me eat the food, and if i eat too fast, she yells and becomes furious. She does this in front of the whole family if we eat together yet she pays no attention to whatever the rest of the family is eating. And when I do something related to eating that she does not approve of, she becomes completely FURIOUS often even becoming physically violent
For example, 4 months ago, the whole family was eating together. This took place in the car and me, my mom, and my middle sister were eating leftover food from the previous day out of reusable containers. My middle sister saw me eating fast and she was FURIOUS. She yelled in the car "You are eating too fast!!! Put down the eating utensil. I don't understand why you are shoving the food in like that !!!! Your older sister worked so hard last night to prepare that food for us. You are eating disordered because you were eating too fast and shoving the food inside. You can't even eat like a normal person. If you were a normal person, you would eat the food very slowly because you have to taste each piece and think of how hard our older sister worked to cook this last night. You are not considering what our older sister would think of you." After yelling at me like this, I began to eat again and she sat in the car staring at me while I ate. After 20 seconds of staring, she saw that I was eating too fast again. She again became FURIOUS and yelled saying I was being disrespectful to her and the whole family because I was eating very fast. She yelled that I was forbidden to eat anymore and she took the food container away from me and walked out of the car and threw the remainder of my food into the trash. Things like this have been occurring between me and my middle sister for many years.
My middle sister lived with us until age 23 and then at age 24-25 (in 2010) she lived with us again for 4 months. Until 2012, she lived close and often came over to visit. When she lived with us and also the times she visited, the first thing she did when she came over to visit was go through the kitchen and look at every specific food for over an hour and then organize all the food in the shelves and refrigerator. If the food was not nutritious or she didn't like it, she would place the food in the back corner of the cabinet or refrigerator.
She would closely monitor the portion size in the food package, how many servings in the package, how many grams of food were in 1 serving, and how many calories per serving was in each food. She would monitor this information and then periodically look at every food we had to monitor how many servings of the specific food I was eating every day. She would write on a package of food in big letters "1 SERVING = ____ g/ounces" and "____ SERVINGS PER CONTAINER" Then she would set a food scale in the kitchen and say if I was to eat anything I was required to use the scale.
She had severe anger management disorders and my mom often called the police. She also verbally abused my mom constantly. On a daily basis until she was 23 she was abusive to me mentally and became violently aggressive for hours a day. My mom and I believe she has intermittent explosive disorder. My mom didn't know what else to do besides call the police. My middle sister has been verbally abusive to me for years. On a daily basis she would yell and hit me physically because i was "weird," because of my physical appearance, and unintelligence. For 10 years straight on a daily basis several times a day yelling abusively at me for being very unintelligent and because of my weight. This occurred until she was 23 and moved out on her own she only came over to visit, during which she still monitored what I ate.
If i was to have a conversation with my middle sister, she instantly becomes furious and calls me a idiot for even speaking to her. Then she would scream loudly complaining why she had to have an idiot fat sister who wasn't good at anything and wasn't like her. She slapped me and tortured me physically. For years she yelled at me and forced me to do intense physical exercise with her for several hours a day and if i said i was too tired, she became furious and screamed at me for 30 minutes straight saying i had no choice but to do the exercises she asked me to do for her.
My middle sister currently works as a registered dietitian because now for a living she gets to tell people exactly what to eat. She said that it was the reason she decided to become one. In 2011, she was admitted to a highly selective R.D. program that admitted 4 applicants from over 10,000.
My oldest sister, the 32 year old with a PhD in nutrition, was also obsessive over what I ate. She constantly said to me since age 8 that if I continued overeating, I was going to keep being fat and then I would have a horrible life. She then highly criticized my mom for letting me eat the way i do. She had many verbal fights with my mom over my weight. She said we would have to put locks on the cabinets so that I could be thin one day. My oldest sister said to me that I "couldn't eat anything because of my body type" and said I couldn't eat the same foods as my middle sister because my middle sister was very thin, and because of my "different" body type, I was forbidden to eat the same foods as everyone else.
When the oldest sister criticizes my body, she is very specific in what body parts she criticizes. When I was younger, she became extremely furious because i had "fat rolls" in the abdominal area and she brought it to my attention very often. She criticized what clothing sizes I wore saying she wanted me to be "normal" and not have to buy "bigger" sizes.
The oldest sister is extremely critical of my social disorder and agoraphobia. If i do something socially inappropriate, my oldest sister and her husband will laugh at me in front of everyone and yell that they wish i was normal. Then they talk about it later. They often bring up socially inappropriate things that I did or said years ago and make fun of it in front of everyone. They criticize me for not being a "normal" adult. When they come over, I get nervous and can't talk to them because all they do is criticize me when i'm not around. I'm avoidant when I have to communicate with my sisters because all they do is criticize when i'm not around.
Even though at almost age 23 i'm 110-115 at 5ft 6, they are still obsessive of controlling what I eat. They still do the same thigns they have done for years. They found out recently that I have difficulty shopping for clothes because I can't find sizes small enough at most major stores and then have to shop in children's clothing. They said they were impressed. Some people I interact with on the internet said i look "very thin" and should see a doctor.
Both sisters have discussions with my mom in private about me and what I eat. My mom tells them to stop and they don't listen because they "don't have to listen to her." My mom says I have no choice but to interact with my sisters "because we're family."
If you have any questions to ask about me or my lifestyle, even very personal questions, I am willing to answer.
TL;DR; : My 2 older sisters, who both have advanced degrees and careers in nutrition and fitness and are very obsessive about this, have for the past 16 years become extremely controlling of what I eat and my physical appearance. Even if I am very thin, they continue to control my food intake and say i'm forbidden to eat certain foods or must have a specific serving size of the food. And why do they do this and what do i do if I can't get them to stop
Submitted October 25, 2014 at 03:42AM by lisa_111 http://ift.tt/1tkNR9F relationships
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