tl;dr: This shit is a long read. I feel like I did a lot for my cousin,and she completely screwed me out of a lot of money and was a passive aggressive child who did next to nothing to help out around the house the entire time we lived together.
A while ago my cousin was in a bad spot living with her dad and stepmom. She couldn't really afford to move out because she had so many bills as well. I decided to let her come stay with me at my house,provided she only pay utilities and do dishes;so she was never on the lease. At some point I got a second job at the place she works at.
When she moved in,she brought a dog that was a rescue. I have two dogs myself,so I didn't mind. The thing is that this dog ended up being a nightmare. He would destroy the trash and chew up things. At one point,he broke the window in her room by knocking a fan into it. Apparently he started chewing on said window,so she took one of my dogs out of her crate and put him in. As a result of being out of her crate,my dog chewed a hole in my floor.
She got her dog his own crate,which he promptly began to destroy and freak out over. He destroyed it in around 3 days,along with shredding a third of my living room rug. Finally we decided to hire my friend chris to come watch him at 5 bucks an hour. It wasn't fair for him to be watching all of the dogs and only she had to pay,so I contributed to paying EVEN THOUGH my dogs didn't need to be watched.
My friend was unable to watch them anymore,and soon her dog began escaping the house through the STILL NOT FIXED window in her room. We blocked it well enough,then he started breaking out through a tiiiny space beside my a/c unit in the other window. Now it's not surprise he had so many issues. He was a rescue already,huskies need lots of daily exercise and stimulation and she wasn't giving him any of that. So she found him a home in the city 30 minutes away.She took in her friends dog after that,who was very well behaved.
She would do the dishes maybe once every three weeks to a month. I mean,they would pile up and sit there forever and it caused a serious roach problem. She took out the trash maybe twice the whole time she lived there. She never cleaned the bathroom,rarely dusted or swept. When asked about it she got extremely defensive and said she swept every day(uh,no. too much dog fur,every day,same spots). She once had a friend stay with us for a month or so because he was in a bad spot with an abusive relationship. I'm all for helping people so that's fine. But he never did anything to help out around the house or give us any money. Maybe he gave her money,but I never saw anything,and I'm the one paying rent.
The guy's crazy ex slashed my cousin's tire. My friend had begun staying with us as well,just to visit. He paid for a used tire to put on her car,we went and picked it up,and he put it on her car. The tire ended up blowing anyways,so she had her mom get her a new one. But still,the thought that counts. She barely thanked him for it.
We'll fast forward a little bit to the present. She is extremely passive aggressive and is constantly making snide remarks then going to her room and ignoring me. Last month,I had been stressed out about not making enough money. This month,I got better hours at my second job so I made more money. I bought her food 3 times in 2 weeks,and I got myself a new bed (it was a used futon,but I needed it because the dogs had pissed ON my old mattress so it was disgusting) and I got myself a few pairs of pants from goodwill that fit me because I've lost 30 pounds in the last 5 months,so none of mine fit anymore.
The moment I brought home those clothes,she made a remark about how I'm just "ballin out lately" and then walked away. The next day she came home and asked me if I had been smoking weed. I said no,she said "well I can smell it all the way down the street." I gave her a funny look because it was weird that weed smell was floating around the neighborhood and said,"nope,not meee" in a funny accent and she whipped her head around and said,"What is your problem,why do you have such an attitude?!" and walked to her room. My friend and I just looked at each other confused because there was not a single hint of attitude in that at all. Why would I have even been mad?
So the next day,she texts me,and it goes like this: "your dog has been digging in the trash" "ok thanks" "wtf" "?" "you've been having an attitude or something the past few days like wtf. like last night and not even speaking today". She had come into work earlier as I was leaving and I didn't say anything to her because I was in a rush to get home,get changed,and go to my second job.
At this point,I was fed up. It doesn't sound all that bad in what I described,but seriously guys,she had been making these hostile remarks for weeks. I went off. I told her I thought that she was the one having an attitude. I told her that if she has any kind of problem that she needs to be a fucking adult and talk to me/ask me about it instead of making assumptions and being hostile towards me for no reason. She responded back saying that being in the house was "bad for her health" (i understand how anxiety can be,I have it too,but seriously she uses it as an excuse anytime something goes wrong and I don't even do anything to cause her anxiety. I come home,read,watch movies,and sleep. That's my life.) And said that she was moving in with her mom,my aunt. She said the utilities would be paid,and that she'd come get her furniture in a few days. Ok,whatever.
So yesterday was the day she came to get her furniture. I came home to find her room covered in dog fur from where she obviously hadn't swept because she never cleaned. Ok,that's cool I can just clean it. Whatever. Also found out that,she had told me her mom,my aunt,had fixed the window her dog broke. She "fixed" it alright;she screwed plexiglass onto the frame. My landlord will take that out of my deposit if that's not actually fixed by the time I move out,great.
But it gets better. I opened the refrigerator and there's a note. Written on the power bill. It read "I'm worse than karma,and I hear/see everything. Oh look,the power bill was due today. Too bad I'm too busy eating cupcakes to add to my cupcake top"
As an aside,the cupcake top thing is a reference to a snapchat I sent a mutual friend about a week before of her getting ready and I wrote cupcake top on it. I thought it was funny,it was in no way meant to be hurtful,but I do see how it could be and apparently it hurt her feelings. That was definitely my bad. But really the girl is super petite,way smaller than me,I wasn't intending it to be mean at all.
Anyways,she left me 80 dollars with the power bill. The bill was 156. When I texted her about it,she refused to pay me any more money and,long story short,told me to go fuck myself.
So,there you have it. If you've come this far in reading,great job! I don't really know if I'm looking for advice or an outside perspective or what,I'm just still positively livid about the whole thing. I feel like I did a lot for her and she just shit all over it. Thanks for reading.
Submitted October 17, 2014 at 01:56AM by and_iran http://ift.tt/1sY3zr4 relationships
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