Are these rational and/or realistic host expectations? AirBnB

So, my SO and I got to a house - a really cool looking place in the middle of nowhere - and left 10 mins later, not to come back. Hosts weren't rude, but here's what happened.

We drive 14 or so hours, make our way up two miles of off-road terrain in a non-off-road car, get to the door, male host answers, tells us to take off our shoes... We do, walk in, meet the female host; male host points to a bedroom (w/a bathroom) and says, "Guest quarters are there"; two seconds of small talk about the road in; male host goes back to his comp, directly outside the "guest quarters" door; female host goes into the kitchen to tend something she's baking, then outside to water her garden; end of interaction.

Here's the thing: I wasn't looking for someone to hold our hands or anything but my impression was that Airbnb hosts should do one of two things: if the place is empty, leave a note with instructions; if it's a shared situation (erroneously described in the ad as a "bed and breakfast"), give us the lay of the land, house rules, etc., i.e. "Let me show you around the house; this is where we'll be; this is where you're expected to be; ok to put groceries in the refrigerator, not ok to watch TV after 10, etc." We felt like we were interlopers in their lives, like the derelict nephew they were pressured into letting crash on their couch, not people who paid to stay there.

So, question: is this typical? Was the weirdness in my head? Or is this bad Airbnb-ing?

Submitted August 30, 2017 at 07:51PM by silentmonkeys http://ift.tt/2xxPk1E AirBnB