Hello Reddit.
Dear, dear, sweet reddit. I have such a tale to tell you. But I must be quick. I will first begin with a quick biography of myself (leaving out as many personal details as possible)
My mother had me while married to the man I'm named after, and the man who has stuck around for most of my life, though I am not his biological son. My father, as I call him, the man I'm named after, has since married a woman whom has not yet met a match at passive aggressive behavior. She dislikes me because I am a tie to another woman in my father's past. More on this dynamic duo soon. It is also worth noting that I am the 4th in my father's line, so, according to my father's side, it is something great to be owed to the family.
I'm getting married tomorrow, on my deceased mother's birthday, and though my fiance and I do not have much financially, we wanted a quaint little wedding at a church I had attended previously with reception to follow. My father and step mother offered to host the reception, and since they were offering to foot the bill, and it was a large venue, we said yes.
At this point, just a bit more background is necessary because of this complex situation. After the passing of my mother, I moved in with my father and step mother until I finished college. The job market has been terrible to me, and I ended up meeting my fiance in another state and instantly upon meeting her moved in with her and her parents. In the almost two years of our relationship, my father has been expressing his displeasure that we (I) do not visit anymore, ignoring the fact he never visits, despite my new residence being five minutes from work and his house is an hour from mine.
Anyways, cut to after them offering them to do the reception. Very generous, and the fiance and I were very happy. However, things do not ever go as planned.
Basically, the step mother has gone on this crazy spree of decorating and turned our quaint meeting of families into this bonanza fantastical party, which she has also invited her extended relatives to without informing us.
So today, the day before the wedding, my fiance and I were asked to come over to the house and fix a few odds and ends to get ready for the big day. The first task was just raising a shelf up for my dad so his new refrigerator could fit. Next task, he helped me load some refrigerant in my car. BUT ALAS REDDIT! MEN AND AUTO CARE SHOULD NEVER MIX.
Basically, whenever my dad works on a car, he becomes this rude ignorant sage who throws life advice at you like a cocktail in prison. And just that happened. He went off on me for being a loser, wasting my degree, etc. Every nerve he could hit, he hit. The conversation switched to the reception. I told him that the reception stopped being about his son and bride and has become a spectacle to impress others. HOLY SHIT.
My dad ripped the refrigerant hose out. We both went inside and I told my fiance we would be leaving. My father tried telling me more, and I said I didn't appreciate his brand of life advice. He said he was sorry he couldn't be my mother. He also said he wanted the thousand dollars he loaned us when I was unemployed and that he did not have to stick around to raise me. Then on the way home, he left a voicemail saying he would be at the church tomorrow and he expected to have his thousand dollars. STUFF IS CRAZY BUT WE AIN'T DONE!
So now, my fiance is at work the night before her wedding, the sweet lass, when I hear a buzz on my phone. It's my father's brother, telling me that essentially the entire family from my father's side will not be attending tomorrow, and my grandmother is pushing to have my name legally changed to protect the family name. So reddit....
1)Can you offer any kind of advice or something to calm me down? Please? 2) Will I really have to change my name? 3) Any fun ideas to do tomorrow after my wedding since the reception idea is kinda scrapped?
Please help me reddit. I'm just a lonely man.
Submitted June 12, 2015 at 06:32AM by throwawayaolsfijwaog http://ift.tt/1JJ4fsD relationship_advice
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