I work out a lot. I was an athlete in high school and college, and I continued my workout routine through law school, and through my career as a lawyer. If you are a professional in a high stress career, you really need to make a special effort to take care of your health because it's very easy to pour yourself into the work. But, if you do that you risk getting run down, tired, and ultimately your work will suffer. This is what I tell new associates: If you had a workout routine before you got this job keep doing it; ride the horse that got you here.
I spend a lot of time in the gym. I notice that there are all types of guys and gals in there. I want to talk about the giant, shaved-headed, no-necked muscle men. You've all seen them in the gym. They're the guys that bench three plates on each side; squat 4 plates on each side and put 10 plates on each side of the leg press machine.
Now, don't get me wrong. I would love to be a giant, shaved-headed, no-necked, muscle man. I would love to be able to go into a gym and out-lift everybody. But, the problem with that is, they're really one-trick ponies. When I walk into a court room or a conference room, I have to look like a professional. You can put a giant, shaved-headed, no-necked muscle man in a suit, but now he just looks like a gym rat in suit. That look defines everything about him. I don't know that I would hire a lawyer who looks like he spends his life in a gym, and defines his appearance by what is essentially a hobby (unless he's a professional body builder, and I do know some lawyers who moonlight as body builders. They're not very good lawyers, btw.) I want to hire a lawyer who looks healthy and fit, not one who looks like he could be on the cover of FLEX magazine.
Furthermore, I don't think the giant shaved-headed, no-necked, muscle man look is attractive to women. Women are much more interested in the David Beckham-Brad Pitt look: lean, athletic musculature, with good proportions. Obviously, very few men have the genetics to look like Beckham or Pitt, but the point is, packing on huge amounts of muscle with weight gainers, amino acids, and anabolics, is not really what women are looking for.
I know I'm going to get shit from butt hurt RPers who say "fuck what other people think, if you want to be a beast, be a beast." Yeah, sure if you want to be a beast, go for it. But, the purpose of TRP is not to be a guy that other men admire. That might be the net result of following TRP, but ultimately that's not the point. The point is to make yourself attractive to women.
So, from a physical perspective, women are not interested in giant muscles. (some might be, but the high quality women that we're after aren't) Women want men who are strong and athletic. You can convey this image by the way you move, the way you carry yourself, the sounds you make when you get up off a couch (you shouldn't make any sound when you get off the couch because it shouldn't be difficult for you). The food you eat (do you think it's attractive when a woman watches you eat an entire pizza by yourself, or when she opens your refrigerator and sees pizza rolls and hot pockets. It means you're a lazy fucking slob.)
You have to stay proportioned. This means working out not just your beach muscles, but your traps, and your back as well.
Most importantly, your workout routine should be a supplement to who you are; it is not who you are. There are girls out there who are workout freaks and they want to date workout freaks. That's fine; and if it works for you, that's great. But, if you're a professional like a lawyer, doctor, engineer, banker, programmer, etc. the work out is a supplement. It's a huge turnoff for a woman to think that you're more interested in your body than her body. Don't let her know that working out is a priority for you. Don't tell her when you're going to work out. She's not proud of you for working out; it doesn't turn her on to know that you work out. All she wants is the results. It's the same thing with your job. She doesn't want to know how hard you worked to get into a position where you earn $180K a year; she just wants to know that's what you make.
tldr: unless you're going to be a professional body builder or personal trainer, don't let your workout define you; don't let your physical appearance box you into being a one trick pony. Your workout is a supplement to your lifestyle, and women don't want to hear about it-- they just want to see the results.
Submitted January 01, 2015 at 09:17PM by 4_YRT http://ift.tt/1x92g9U TheRedPill
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